His Future In-Laws Kept Making Remarks About How “Tragic” It Was That His Adoptive Parents Would Be At His Wedding Instead Of His Biological Parents, So He Finally Told Them Off
Some people who have been more open about being adopted as a child get treated differently, as some try to make a big deal over their history.
One man recently went off on his future in-laws, who kept telling him how ‘sorry’ they were that his adopted parents would be at his wedding and not his biological parents.
He’s 25 and engaged to his fiancée, Erin, who is the same age.
When he was a kid, his biological parents were unfit to take care of him, and the first few years of his life were traumatizing. He was removed from their care when he was five, put into foster care, and was adopted by his dad and ‘pa’ when he was seven and has happily grown up alongside them and his siblings.
“I was so lucky to find my parents and to end up with the family I have,” he said.
“I remember clearly some of the bad [moments] with my biological family, and I don’t miss that.”
He’s been spending more time with Erin’s parents since they got engaged and started wedding planning. Since then, her parents have weirdly been hung up on the fact that he’s adopted and keep trying to make a big deal out of it.
“Her parents have developed an obsession with stating how tragic, sad, [and] unfortunate it is that I won’t have my ‘real family’ there and that there’ll be no blood relatives of mine present for the wedding or our life together,” he explained.
“Erin has told them my real family are my dads and my siblings, but they wave that off like it’s [nothing].”
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Erin has tried her best to stand up for him and defend his adoptive family, but her parents won’t drop the topic. Finally, when her parents brought up his family, and how “tragic” it was that he wasn’t with his biological parents at a dinner with their friends, he had to speak up.
He went on a long rant about how the people he actually shared DNA with were the people who made him feel awful and unloved.
“I told them I could not imagine having any of those people in my life today, and I could not imagine thinking DNA means more than love,” he added.
“I told them I was miserable being with those people, and I wished every day for someone to love me. [I said] I didn’t know love until I was seven and I met my parents, more specifically my dad, who embodies love and is hands down the most loving, caring, compassionate, and thoughtful person I have ever met.”
He also told Erin’s parents about how when his dads adopted him, he didn’t know how to eat and sleep normally due to the trauma his biological parents caused him, further emphasizing how it was not tragic that they wouldn’t be at his wedding.
After he finished ranting, Erin’s parents went silent for the rest of the dinner, and later, they said he had humiliated them and shouldn’t have spoken to them like that. Erin stood up for him, telling them they should know when to quit bugging him and owe him an apology.
Should he apologize for going off on his future in-laws?
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