She’s Concerned That Her Husband Is Sleeping With One Of His Former Students
This 34-year-old woman’s 35-year-old husband is currently a stay-at-home dad to their two young children, and he used to teach elementary school.
She makes a ton more money than her husband ever did as a teacher, and considering how much childcare costs in this day and age, it just makes more sense for her husband to stay home.
However, when their kids are able to be in school full-time, her husband has expressed his desire to resume teaching.
Not that long ago, one of her husband’s former female students got in contact with him. This girl is now 20, and her husband was her teacher back when she was in the 4th grade.
This girl was hands-down her husband’s favorite student, and they spent loads of time together. Anyway, this girl reached out to her husband to say thank you for everything that he did for her.
She’s attending college in the city where they live, so her husband invited her over to their home to have dinner with them.
This girl did accept the invitation to have dinner at their house, and the night was actually pretty wonderful all around.
“She’s a very sweet girl; he and her were clearly thrilled to see each other; they made such huge impacts on each other,” she explained.
“Our kids loved her and so did I, honestly. When she left, they made a promise to get coffee sometime, and he told her our door was always open to her.”
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“She had a tough go of things and has no real support other than her aunt, and I thought and believe that his intent was to offer her some kind of mentor figure basically. I still believe that’s what he intended at the time, but now I suspect things have changed.”
This dinner happened several months back, and she is aware that her husband has grabbed coffee with this girl, but he has not invited her back over to their home.
Also, her husband hasn’t said much about this girl at all, but he was so over the moon when she reentered his life.
Her husband could not quit talking about this girl, so she finds it weird that he’s suddenly stopped, and his behavior is coming across as strange to her, too.
He’s spending way more time with his phone, and he has gotten pretty quiet with her. He’s been listening to loads of music and pacing around the house.
He’s also acting off about what he’s doing with his free time when their children are in preschool and school during the day.
She knows he normally does some errands in those free hours or works out, but out of nowhere, he has shifted his routine to do all of those things late at night or early in the mornings.
“It could have easy reasonings, but in my bones, I feel like he’s having an affair with her,” she said.
“Part of me feels like a horrible person for even suspecting that because of how…gross it is, and I really can’t believe he would do it, but I can’t shake it. When she had dinner, she said how she used to have a huge crush on him, and he laughed at it and said he had been well aware of it.”
“And it was very innocent and sweet, but now that I think back, it seems like she was flirting. Also, she’s a really attractive girl and very his “type,” which I hate saying. And he remains very attractive and looks shockingly similar to how he did at 25, so it’s not like he’s aged badly and out of her fantasy.”
There’s a piece of her that cannot fathom her husband cheating on her since he has never given her a reason to doubt that he’s still in love with her.
But she can’t ignore that he’s struggling with something, and the changes in his routine, as well as his behavior, are giving off red flags.
Additionally, her husband used to do some pretty self-destructive things in his younger years and did get therapy for that, but he stopped going to therapy years ago, and she can fully picture him slipping back into his old ways.
So, she can’t help but worry that her husband is sleeping with his former student because that would explain everything that’s off to her.
“I could just so easily see a scenario where she jumps at the chance to act out her childhood fantasy, and he decides to go for it,” she added.
“…I want to confront him or to snoop through his phone and things, but I also think that I’m maybe just going off of nothing and should just let it go and wait and see. If I’m wrong, I feel like accusing him of this would be borderline unforgivable to him.”
What do you think she should do?
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