She’s Forcing Her Fiancé To Either Cut Off His Late Wife’s Family Or She’s Calling Off Their Wedding Because They Vandalized Her Car And Won’t Stop Harassing Her About Getting Married
This 25-year-old woman is marrying her fiancé, 29, in May. They met when she was 21 and he was 25. At the beginning of their relationship, her fiancé informed her that when he was 20, he married his high school sweetheart.
Tragically, she had died of sepsis during a surgery in which the medical team made serious mistakes. He and his late wife had been married for two years when she passed away. Understandably, this loss devastated him, and he kept in touch with his wife’s dad and two sisters, 19 and 24.
“It was a soft spot for me for a while at the beginning because there was so much history they had that we would not have, and it was tough knowing she was all around him. I never told him and decided to work through it independently, especially because he would often spend time with her family during our relationship,” she said.
On his late wife’s birthday, their wedding anniversary, and the anniversary of her passing, her fiancé got together with her family. She was uneasy about this in the beginning because she acknowledged that the person she was in love with was thinking back on memories of someone else whom he loved.
But she reminded herself to put herself in his shoes, and over the last couple of years, she isn’t as uneasy about her fiancé honoring his late wife because she knows her relationship with him is stable. A year ago, he proposed, and she was thrilled. She adores her fiancé, but not long ago, she found out that he’d never told his late wife’s family about their engagement.
Over the last several months, she’s been frequenting local coffee shops instead of where she used to go. Recently, she went to a coffee shop she’d never been to before, and it turned out that one of her fiancé’s late wife’s sisters worked there.
While it was uncomfortable, the situation worsened when his late wife’s sister eyed up her engagement, gawked at it, and then looked visibly upset. She didn’t bring up the engagement to her fiancé and left the coffee shop.
After this uncomfortable run-in, her fiancé informed her that his late wife’s sister had told him about the incident on social media. She told him she was sad he’d hidden their engagement from his late wife’s family, and he told her he was sorry. It was obvious that the drama exhausted him.
During the conversation, her fiancé told her he didn’t intend for her to be a secret, but he also was worried about upsetting his late wife’s family. He added that she and his late wife were both important to him, which she accepted. She agreed to move forward after asking him to be honest with her. Last Sunday, she received a message from his late wife’s older sister.
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“She asked if I was happy with myself and said that I would never replace his late wife and that if she were still alive, he’d choose her over me every time. She even said that he only kept me around for my money. I ignored it, but I can’t say that it didn’t affect me. When you’re in my position, all these points are ones you have to work through,” she explained.
His late wife’s sister pointed out things that made her feel self-conscious, so it felt like these points were used as ammunition against her and like the wind was knocked out of her when she read the message. She told her fiancé about the message, and he consoled her, assuring her he’d enforce boundaries with his late wife’s sister. After that, she didn’t receive any more hateful messages.
Later, she discovered that someone had smeared profanity in red paint all over her car, slashed her tires and the windows were cracked. She spent a year saving up enough money to buy this vehicle, which was incredibly pricey. A store several doors down from where her car was parked had a security camera, so she requested the footage from the night her car was vandalized.
Even though the footage was grainy, she could make out half of the car’s license plate that drove up to hers before the culprit vandalized her car. Plus she figured out the vehicle’s color and make and found out that the car belonged to her fiancé’s late wife’s younger sister.
Once she informed her fiancé of what happened, she said she’d file a police report. He pleaded with her to wait until after he’d had a discussion with his late wife’s sisters. She responded that she’d wait if they agreed to pay for the damage caused to her vehicle and tell her sorry in person.
Two days ago, she and her fiancé got together with his late wife’s sisters, which was chaotic. Everybody yelled at each other, and his late wife’s sisters refused to say sorry and were adamant that they didn’t have anything to apologize for.
“They told me that I should leave their family alone, including my fiancé in their family. He told them that it wasn’t fair to him to be lonely forever and that he’d hoped they’d be supportive of him finding love again. They told him he was betraying his late wife and that he never loved her if he’d marry someone else,” she shared.
During the fight, his late wife’s sisters claimed they didn’t have an issue with him being in a relationship because, according to them, he’d eventually acknowledge that his late wife was the only woman he ever wanted to be with, and he’d end the relationship.
Since he instead got engaged, they were furious and wanted to break them up. His late wife’s younger sister asked him to take their side and agree that he’d never be able to love another woman like he loved his late wife. Her fiancé burst into tears at this point.
She grabbed his arm, and before she and her fiancé walked out, she told his late wife’s sisters that she’d be filing a police report and suing them for the damage they caused to her car, adding that she wouldn’t see them again until a scheduled court date.
After she and her fiancé returned home and settled down, she told him that she would break up with him if he didn’t go no-contact with his late wife’s family.
From her perspective, it wasn’t fair for her to have to endure never-ending harassment or for her future kids to be the potential victims of bullying from his late wife’s sisters.
In response to her concerns, her fiancé claimed they weren’t capable of bullying kids, but she screamed at him that he also didn’t predict they were capable of the harassment they’d put her through.
Later, her fiancé called his late wife’s dad, who was calm about the situation yet continued siding with his daughters. According to his late wife’s family, it’s unfair for her to “control” her fiancé by asking him to go no-contact with them.
They think she’s awful for making such a suggestion. Now, she doesn’t know what she should do. All she knows is she can’t cope with this harassment anymore, and she doesn’t think she should be expected to put up with it if she stays with her fiancé.
What advice would you give her?
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