Her Husband Broke Her Heart When He Admitted He Has Feelings For One Of His College Students
For the last seven years, this 35-year-old woman has been married to her 36-year-old husband. Her husband is a professor at a college where he teaches English Literature, and he has held this role for several years.
A month ago, her husband sat her down and grabbed her hands in his. She was instantly terrified as she looked at the expression that crossed her husband’s face, and she very anxiously asked her husband what was going on.
He informed her that he is resigning from his position at the college, and when she pressed him as to why he’s doing this, he admitted he developed passionate feelings for one of his 19-year-old female students.
“I felt like someone had knocked all the air out of me because I just sat gawping at him for what felt like ages,” she explained.
“After that, there were things I needed to know. My main question was whether he had ever acted on his “intense feelings” and put this girl in danger. He was quick to defend himself and told me nothing like that ever happened, and everything he ever felt had never been acted on.”
“He said that was why he felt he had to leave his job. He apologized to me over and over, but all I could do was sit in silence, staring into space. I was far too numb to even process my own feelings or communicate them to him, but pretty much knew in that moment I needed space and that our marriage was over.”
Her husband broke her heart and crushed her by confessing his feelings for his student. She and her husband have a second house that sits on the edge of the city where they live, and she has been spending time there since he shared the horrific news with her.
She has talked to her husband a tiny amount on the phone, and she did admit she wants to get a divorce.
Her husband was upset, but he agreed to give her what she wanted before saying sorry yet again for ruining their marriage.
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After that call, they have not talked, though her husband told his parents about what went down. Her in-laws then told her parents about everything, and all of their loved ones are sharing their opinions on what she should do.
While many of their loved ones support her in pursuing a divorce, some of them believe that she is not being fair at all.
“Their argument is that by leaving his job, my husband is trying to do the right thing, and he didn’t pursue anything with the girl (which we only have his word on),” she said.
“However, they are 100% the loud minority, and their opinions don’t hold weight with me. I also spoke at length with the head of the university almost immediately after I found out. It turns out my husband confessed his reasons for leaving his job, and they are in the process of conducting their own investigation. I just want the best for the girl involved.”
She has gotten a lawyer, and she has had her lawyer move forward with several things. She is going to have her lawyer be the one to contact her husband if need be, as she’s sick at the thought of seeing or dealing with him.
She has since spoken to her therapist and shared that she needs some kind of closure, as well as more answers.
When her husband said that he had feelings for his student, she was so taken aback that she didn’t have it in her to get any questions out. Her therapist feels it could be good for her to speak to her husband over the phone to get some more information.
And this is where everything is for the moment. She’s moving ahead with her divorce, and she’s alright with not getting to see her husband in person anymore.
“I do have a burning need to ask more questions, such as how long he had felt that way towards his student and how deep those emotions had been,” she continued.
“Not only that, but to express how I feel now some of the shock has worn off. Do you guys think that would be a good idea, or should I move on without pursuing these things? My mother, in particular, feels I’d only be setting myself up for more hurt if I did that, and I’m torn.”
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