These Are Our Top Tips For Moving On And Getting Closure After Being Blindsided And Dumped Without Any Warning
I think for many people who are in serious relationships or have recently entered a relationship with someone they’ve really fallen for, the idea of suddenly ending that relationship is terrifying.
However, as scary as it is, sometimes people will break up with you or dump you seemingly out of the blue.
I know people who feel like their relationship ended for no reason, and their breakups totally blindsided them, and I’ve seen the trauma it can cause. However, it’s important not to let the pain from an unexpected breakup keep you down for long.
If this has recently happened to you or you want to be prepared for what to do after getting dumped with no warning, here are some tips for moving on and getting closure.
Allow yourself to grieve
This is usually the first step in any of our breakup advice articles because it’s important for all kinds of breakups. Allow yourself a few days or even weeks to feel everything you need to feel.
Cry whenever you have to, vent to your friends, journal, and do whatever you have to do to acknowledge and release your pain. If you try to bottle it up and act like everything is fine, you’ll be more likely to fall apart.
Snap out of it!
Once you’ve done a lot of grieving and allowed yourself to be down and sad, it’s time to snap out of it. There has to come a day or week when you decide it’s time to get out of bed or off the couch and get back to living your life.
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To get yourself to snap out of your gloominess, think about the way your ex dumped you. Would you really want to stay with someone heartless enough to dump you so unexpectedly? Would you really want to stay so sad about it for so long?
Cut your ties
One of the best ways to get closure and officially end things with your ex is to cut ties with them digitally. Trust me, you don’t want to contact them at this time. They wanted to break up with you so suddenly, so let them feel what it’s like to not be able to contact you when they want. Block their number!
I would also highly recommend unfollowing them on social media. We’ve all done the tempting Instagram or Facebook stalk after a breakup, which often worsens things. Cut all those digital ties, and you’ll feel much more free.
Pick up a new hobby
This may sound like a cheesy tip, but for sudden, unexpected breakups, it’s a great one. Why? Well, when you lose a partner unexpectedly via breakup, it’s like you’re losing a big part of your life. You suddenly have more free time and opportunities to fill your life with something else.
Sign up for a class you’ve always wanted to try, buy the art supplies you’ve been thinking about, find a club to join, etc. Replace all the time and effort you used to spend on your ex and put it towards something that will make you happy.
Embrace the single life for a while
Avoid giving yourself relationship whiplash by trying to jump into a new relationship after one suddenly ends. Whether you want to admit it or not, your ex’s actions likely scarred you, and trying to enter a new fling or relationship right away while still carrying that hurt and baggage could be a recipe for disaster.
Give yourself a few months or even a year of being single, enjoying your solo time and time with friends, and let yourself be. You’ll discover new things about yourself and get a lot more productive things done.
If you were recently broken up with unexpectedly, my heart goes out to you. It must be incredibly painful to experience, but I promise you’ll heal bit by bit, day by day.
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