You Can’t Fix A Broken Man Or Get Him To Change, So Stop Wasting Your Time And Find Someone Who Really Meets Your Standards
I don’t know about you, but I’m cursed with having a bit of a savior complex and being a very empathetic person.
There are many beautiful things about having those traits, but there are also some major downsides, as you can often be attracted to or drawn to broken people.
While there are many people you can help in the world, sometimes, there are people who are too far gone.
If you’re an empathetic, loving woman on the dating scene, you may be attracted to broken men who are very stuck in their toxic ways. However, it’s so important that you don’t waste much of your precious time trying to fix a broken man.
Men who are broken or can’t “be saved” are often unhappy, stubborn, and very negative. When you start dating them, they may give you the impression that you could help them heal or change, but after a while, you’ll realize that it’s hopeless.
Finding your ideal partner is finding someone who wants to change with you as time passes by instead of trying to change the way someone is in order to be happy with them.
A man who is emotionally broken is often emotionally unavailable. You can try as hard as you want to get him to open up to you and be vulnerable, but you’ll rarely get that side of him. Instead, you’ll probably get aggression every time you push him to open up.
These kinds of men really put you through the wringer because they can make you feel horrible about yourself.
I mean, if you spend so much time trying to connect with or heal him, only for him not to give you what you want, you may start blaming yourself.
DavidPrado – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
But here’s something to remember—a man who doesn’t love himself won’t be able to fully and wholeheartedly love you.
That’s pretty true for anyone who doesn’t feel any love for themselves; it becomes hard to love and be a good partner for other people.
Once you start dating someone you slowly realize is broken, who disappoints you time after time, please stop trying to fix him and get him to change.
Instead, go find someone who meets your higher standards, who wants to work to make you happy, and who wants to be there for you as much as you want to be there for them.
Take it from me, someone who’s had dating experiences with a ‘broken’ man, dating him will feel extremely one-sided. And where’s the joy in that?
You deserve someone who’s not only appreciative of your empathetic love but who also wants to give it back to you. So don’t waste your time trying to fix someone who can’t be fixed.
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