Her Boyfriend Screamed At Her After His Female Best Friend Passed Away, Since She Wouldn’t Allow Them To Hang Out
This woman and her boyfriend have been in a relationship for two years. Since childhood, he has been good friends with a woman she assumed was his girlfriend when she first met him. Over the years, he and his friend were inseparable and took trips together.
After meeting her now-boyfriend and his close friend, she asked if they were dating. He told her they’d never been romantically interested in each other and had only had a platonic friendship.
Eventually, she and her boyfriend started their relationship, but she didn’t feel like the most important person in his life.
From her perspective, her boyfriend cared more about his friend. He shared everything about his life with his friend and texted her daily. She’d also hear about his friend constantly because her boyfriend often talked about her.
Once she expressed that his actions made her self-conscious and made her feel like he didn’t value her as much, they fought about the issue. She begged him to see her perspective, and he finally accepted that he wasn’t prioritizing her as much as his friend.
He told her he’d have a discussion with his friend about having some distance to prioritize his relationship. From then on, her boyfriend didn’t communicate with his friend anymore.
“A week ago, one of their friends texted him to let him know that she had uterine cancer and died a few hours ago. My boyfriend became a completely different person after that. He became kind of manic. He ran to meet with their friends and demanded to know who was handling her funeral, apartment, and possessions,” she said.
Unfortunately, her boyfriend’s late friend had no remaining family members, so her friend group discussed dividing the duties. Her boyfriend forced his friends to allow him to take on some of the responsibilities, and they finally agreed.
Since then, her boyfriend visited his late friend’s apartment daily. He took time off from his job and stayed at her place for hours. She was concerned and contacted his friends to find out his late friend’s address.
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When she drove to the apartment, she assumed her boyfriend would be organizing his friend’s belongings, throwing items away, and packing items away, but she was surprised that he wasn’t cleaning the apartment.
“Instead, he was going through her things and reading her journals (apparently, she’s been journaling since she was small). He even began trashing her apartment to find her laptop’s password. He claims she had trouble remembering stuff like that, so she would write them down and stash them around the apartment in little hiding places,” she explained.
Her boyfriend was certain that his late friend had hidden her laptop password in the apartment and was determined to find it. Later, he requested that she call Geek Squad at Best Buy to find out if they could unlock his late friend’s computer, and she lost it.
She pleaded with him to calm down for a minute and quit trying to get into his friend’s laptop, adding that he was insane.
“He blew up at me and started yelling at me and screaming about how all this was my fault and how none of this would have happened if I just let them keep hanging out. He read her journals, and he knows she stopped talking to him because he told her I was feeling insecure,” she shared.
As her boyfriend yelled at her, he said that he saw a journal entry when his late friend said she’d asked him to have dinner not long after she’d received her cancer diagnosis because she wanted to break the news to him.
In his anger, he backed her into a corner of the apartment and questioned whether she recalled throwing a tantrum about his late friend asking him to dinner and pleading for him to turn her down.
At the time, he told his friend he couldn’t go to dinner because his girlfriend felt uneasy about them spending time together. His friend never contacted him again because she assumed his girlfriend didn’t want them to be friends anymore.
Because of that, he never knew she’d been diagnosed with cancer until after her death. Leading up to her passing, his late friend told their friend group not to inform him of her diagnosis, and they complied with her request to keep the information a secret.
He continued, pointing out that since he complied with her request to distance himself from his friend, he couldn’t support his late friend before she passed away with no one around her.
Suddenly, her boyfriend kicked her out of his friend’s apartment and ordered her never to come back. He added that he didn’t want her in his friend’s place and needed distance.
She and her boyfriend live together, so her boyfriend said he wouldn’t return to their apartment for a while.
After their argument, she was baffled and upset. She didn’t understand what she did wrong and why he told her she was to blame.
However, she felt certain her boyfriend wouldn’t dump her because both of their names are listed on the lease, and they share monthly expenses.
She couldn’t imagine their relationship ending because they’d built a life together.
What advice would you give her?
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