Her Fiancé Is Still Talking To The Girl He Cheated On Her With, So She’s Not Sure She Can Marry Him
For the last eight years, this 30-year-old woman has been with her fiancé, who is the same age as her.
Now about four years ago, she learned that her fiancé was cheating on her with a girl named Emma.
She discovered this after she looked through her fiancé’s phone one evening since she was curious to see what he was up to.
She’s not proud of her snooping, but it did lead to her learning about his infidelity. She got into an enormous argument with her fiancé based on what she found on his phone, and a week after their fight, he really appeared to show remorse for what he did.
She forgave him, and they moved forward, but then two years later, she had another bad feeling about what her fiancé was up to.
He was glued to his phone, which she knew couldn’t be a good sign. She was able to get onto his social media account one evening to check on him.
“Again, I’m not proud of what I did, and I know I invaded his private space, but I knew something was wrong,” she explained.
“In his messages, I found numerous conversations with girls. I don’t believe he physically cheated, but he was speaking with them like he was a single man.”
Instead of confronting him, she said nothing and resolved to just spy on what he was doing in real-time to gather more information.
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She spent a week reading the tons of messages he exchanged with these girls, and she was fed up. This time, she wanted to end their relationship.
She took all of her fiancé’s belongings, stuffed them in trash bags, and then printed out copies of every single conversation her fiancé had with these girls.
She stuck the conversations inside of a folder, which she taped to their apartment door with his name on it.
When he arrived home from work later on, he saw his things, the evidence of his cheating, and the fact that he was locked out and flipped.
He banged on the door and begged for her to open up. By the way, she purchased the apartment, and he was living there rent-free with her.
“I opened the door because the neighbors could hear him shouting, and I showed him all of the packed staff and told him to get them and leave,” she said.
“He started crying and promised that it was a misunderstanding and it wasn’t what it seemed (gaslighting, I know). I never believed him, but he refused to leave and said that he would do anything to change my mind.”
“I gave him 2 days to find someplace else to stay and went to sleep. The next whole week, he was acting very sweet, trying to change my mind, refusing to leave. That was the week that I found out I was pregnant (not planned) and told him. He was over the moon. I was shocked and confused. In the end, I again decided to forgive him once more for the sake of our baby.”
She wanted to believe he was done with his cheating ways, but during the course of her pregnancy, she came across more messages.
She once more called her fiancé out, and he promised it was just some kind of joke that he and his friend were playing and that they were making fun of this girl who was sending him messages.
She forgave him yet again, this time for the sake of their child. For a time, things were great and her fiancé stepped into the role of being a dad.
Their son is currently a year old, and she has not found any more messages. She’s also thrilled with how wonderful her fiancé is with their son.
It seemed her fiancé’s infidelity was finally behind them. Sadly, she recently came across some messages sent from Emma, who was the girl he cheated on her with years ago.
She sat her fiancé down and insisted he had to block Emma and quit speaking to her. Last week, her fiancé changed the passwords on all of his accounts, and that was not a good sign.
Last night, she witnessed two different messages from Emma pop up on her fiancé’s iPad. She brought it to his attention, and he said Emma was replying to a story he shared on Instagram, but he only gave her a one-word response.
“I know he is not physically cheating,” she continued. “This time, I gave him an ultimatum: either me or her (blocking her).”
“He refused with the excuse that he didn’t care and he didn’t want to show Emma that we had an argument about her, resulting in him blocking her, but honestly, I don’t care what she thinks. At this point, it’s a matter of respect, which he doesn’t have for me. He says I’m overreacting and to stop overthinking the messages. That’s how I see it.”
“I told him that I couldn’t marry someone who doesn’t respect me (the wedding is in October). He said that I was acting childish and got angry. This morning we woke up like nothing had happened and was acting sweet. I don’t know what to do at this point with this relationship. I’m very tired of the whole situation. So am I overreacting?”
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