He’s Refusing To Marry His Girlfriend Because He Doesn’t Want To End Up Divorced And Alone Like His Father
Eight years ago, this man’s parents divorced. His father struggled with the divorce and isn’t the same person he used to be. His mother is doing well and started dating other people after the divorce. She is receiving alimony from his father.
After seeing what his parents went through, he realized he never wanted to get married because he didn’t want to wind up like his father someday.
He and his girlfriend met in their mid-20s, and he was up-front about his views on marriage. She accepted his opinion and didn’t seem to have an issue with it, so it felt like they were on the same page.
Eventually, she got pregnant with his baby. Since she was the one who had to carry the baby, he left the choice up to her of whether to keep the baby or not. She ultimately chose to keep it, and their son was born a year ago.
“She is now bugging me about marriage, and I pretty much refused. She threatened that she would leave, and I still refused to budge,” he said.
Later, his girlfriend called his mom, who adores her. After their conversation, his mom called him to warn him his girlfriend, a wonderful girl, might break up with him. In response, he said he didn’t want to get married, and it was the first time he expressed these views to his mom.
“She started pestering me about my reasons, so I answered that I don’t want to end up like my dad when I am in my 50s: broken while my ex-wife moves on with her life like nothing happened,” he explained.
During his parents’ divorce, he was in college, and his parents were vague about why they were splitting up. At the time, they told him that “they grew apart,” and they didn’t want him to know the details because they didn’t want to drag him into their divorce.
He’d always known there had to be more to the story, but he never asked them for more information because he didn’t want to get in the middle of their divorce.
marjan4782 – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
“I don’t care what happened. I can see the result and don’t want that to happen to me. I have decided to go no-contact with my mother for the time being,” he shared.
After the conversation with his mom, she continued calling him, but he didn’t answer. He didn’t think another talk would be productive or that his mom had anything to say that would change his mind about marriage.
While he’d be thrilled if his girlfriend continued dating him, he didn’t think he could persuade her to stay. It was up to her whether she wanted to stay in a relationship with someone who would never marry her.
What advice would you give him?
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