He’s Scared To Tell His Girlfriend That He Has A Trust Fund With So Much Money In It, He Will Never Have To Work Again
Back in his first year of college, this 23-year-old guy met his 24-year-old girlfriend, but they didn’t begin dating until they were three years in.
Now, his dad used to be the CEO of a tech company that got bought up several years ago, and because of that, he has a sizable trust fund set up for him.
Even before his dad’s company sold, he knew that his family was well-off. He went to a prestigious and pricy private boarding school in England.
Despite his privileged upbringing, he feels that he’s still very down to earth. His parents own a home that’s average, and they do not buy anything expensive or in your face since his dad says that’s a waste of their money. He also goes out of his way to not let anyone know about how much money his dad has.
His girlfriend is aware that he went to a private boarding school, but she simply thinks his grandparents paid so he could attend, and that’s not false.
“So this is all to say that I haven’t intentionally misled my girlfriend about my family’s income; I just haven’t ever mentioned it,” he explained.
“I wouldn’t mention it at the start because I want to make sure people like me for my myself and not for my dad’s money. When my dad sold his company, he set up a trust that I would be able to access when I turn 25. This will be in September of next year.”
“When I get access to this trust, I will not need to work ever. I will be set up for life. My dad did this because he’s told me he wanted me to ‘develop a work ethic’ before getting access to the money. Which I think I have; I mean, I have a full-time job and don’t get any money from my parents.”
Every single year that he has spent with his girlfriend, he’s been meaning to bring this up to her, but he’s terrified that she will believe that he’s a liar for omitting the truth.
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Perhaps this does make him a liar after all, but he was always scared that his girlfriend would fall in love with his money and not him.
He believes that he’s waited too long to share his financial status with her, and that will make his girlfriend suspect he’s a liar.
What also worries him is that a couple of months ago, his girlfriend was struggling since she’s completing her Master’s part-time. She ended up getting fired and lost the ability to pay her rent.
“I couldn’t help her at the time even if I wanted to because I don’t have access to the trust,” he said.
“But I did offer to let her stay in my flat until she got back on her feet. It didn’t take her long to find a new job and flat. When I say my parents don’t give me any money, I mean it. My dad says I have to find my own way in life until I get access to the trust, so I don’t have the option of getting money or a loan from him to help her out. I am scared that when I tell her about the trust the dynamics of our relationship are going to change. I love the fact that we are equal and that we both pay for our own bills, so we both have a full say in anything we do.”
“I wouldn’t mind financially supporting her if she wanted to become a housewife; I would easily be able to once I had turned 25. I don’t think she would, though, because she’s carer-oriented and loves her privacy. That’s the main reason why we haven’t moved in together yet. However, I don’t want to feel like the guardian of the house’s income. That and the fact I am scared she’s going to have a bad reaction to the fact that I never told her sooner.”
He’s left wondering how he can be honest with his girlfriend about having so much money in his trust fund that he’ll never have to work again without coming across as a huge jerk.
What advice do you have for him?
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