She Planned Her Own Birthday Party Since Her Husband And Kids Did Such A Terrible Job Last Year

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When this woman turned 40 last year, her husband and kids planned her a birthday party all on their own.

They got ice cream cake and ordered pizza, then sat down to watch a movie with her at home. She thinks they did a terrible job.

She says she goes out of her way to make sure every occasion for her family, birthdays included, is over the top, and she’s upset they don’t do the same thing for her.

When her husband turned 40, she took him to Vegas for a NASCAR experience. For her daughter’s 16th birthday, she saved her money for a whole year to purchase a pricey laptop for her.

As for her son, he’s only 10, so she doesn’t think it’s fair to say he doesn’t do a great job planning special things, considering that he’s so little.

This year, she took it upon herself to plan her own birthday party without telling her husband or her kids, as she was so disappointed last year.

So, she had her best friend come stay at her house while she and her husband spent the weekend alone in the city.

They had wonderful meals and saw a musical. When they returned home, there was a party at her house with all of her friends and family waiting for her arrival.

All of her loved ones complimented her husband and her daughter for doing such a wonderful job planning her birthday party, but the thing is, she planned the party by herself, and they weren’t involved.

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But then, when all the guests went home, and the party was over, her husband and daughter accused her of humiliating them but not informing them of her own birthday plans.

“I asked them what they had planned for my birthday,” she explained. “They told me. I agreed with them that my plans put theirs to shame.”

“I asked them if they wanted me to tell everyone who had come to my party what the actual plan was for my birthday. They both looked like deer in headlights. I said that would be cruel and would draw other people into a petty, private family drama. I asked them how they thought what they planned for me compared to what I did for them.”

“My daughter opened her mouth and closed it. I said that I understood that they did not like planning stuff. And that I had no problem with it. But that they could have enlisted help from my friends or so longs who do like to plan. I said if it was really an issue, I was more than willing to let them plan and execute their own celebrations from now on, and I would take care of planning mine. We could alternate planning my son’s stuff.”

Her husband and her daughter fell silent. Today, her husband shocked her by apologizing. He mentioned that she’s right and he has been incredibly thoughtless with her birthday plans.

However, her daughter is angry with her for calling her out for putting more attention into planning her best friend’s birthday than hers.

She does feel like a jerk, but she’s left wondering if she was wrong to take her birthday celebration into her own hands.

What do you think?

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