Her Husband Still Hasn’t Told His Parents That They Got Married, So She Threatened To Divorce Him
This 22-year-old woman and her husband, who is also 22, have been married for three years now. According to her, the reason they tied the knot so early was because they were both “young,” “dumb,” and planned to enlist in the military to escape their small town.
So, they ultimately eloped at the courthouse and planned to keep their nuptials a secret at first – only reaping the benefits of their marriage from the military. Then, she and her husband planned to just see how their relationship went and “go from there” before telling anybody.
However, things didn’t exactly go according to plan. She and her husband did not end up enlisting in the military. That’s why, just a few months after they eloped, she told her parents that she was married.
Her husband, on the other hand, still hasn’t told his parents that they’re husband and wife – and she keeps asking him when he’s finally going to come clean.
For some context, her husband apparently didn’t have a great relationship with his parents when they got married, hence why he didn’t share the news. Now, though, she’s sick of hiding the truth, and she finally gave her husband an ultimatum.
More specifically, this week, she claimed that he either needed to tell her parents they were married by the end of the week or else she would be divorcing him.
“I am uncomfortable with them not knowing, and honestly, I feel like he’s not mature enough to be in a marriage if he can’t man up to tell them,” she explained.
“He said he’s scared to hurt them, and I countered that he needs to get it over with, that he’s also hurting me.”
She claimed that her husband’s parents actually adore her, too, which is why she’s been tempted to just tell them the truth about their marriage herself in the past. Yet, her husband always stopped her.
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And given her more recent ultimatum, he has only become more defensive. In fact, after she gave her husband the choice between the truth or divorce, he said that he would just return the upgraded wedding band set he just got her if she “didn’t want to be married to him.”
On top of that, her husband accused her of pressuring him into sharing the news of their nuptials with his parents when he wasn’t ready.
“But I told him that I wasn’t saying that at all. I’m just tired of him not being an adult, which makes me question our relationship,” she reasoned.
“I love him, but it’s screaming red flags, and I know I’m young enough that it won’t ruin my life if we divorce.”
Not to mention, her parents actually know that her husband hasn’t told his own family about the marriage, and they think it’s a big problem, too. Her parents have even tried talking to her husband about it before.
So, right now, the only reason why she hasn’t already left her husband and gone to stay with her parents is because they currently live on the other side of the country. Additionally, she and her husband have pets together.
“However, he knows if he does not tell them by this Sunday, I will be making plans to move once my summer semester ends,” she revealed.
Still, despite her own feelings on the situation, she’s unsure if threatening to divorce her husband was really the right way to handle it.
Does she have a right to be upset that her husband still hasn’t told his parents the truth? How would you feel about keeping your marriage a secret from your in-laws for three years?
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