His Parents Spend All Their Money On His Foster Siblings, And He’s Hurt They’re Adopting Another Child When They Are Struggling Financially
Not long after this 16-year-old guy was born, his mom and dad started fostering children. His parents adopted three children prior to deciding to quit fostering.
Back then, his parents mentioned they had to spend more time on the kids they already had as the reason they stopped fostering, but he knows it’s because they were having a tough time with four kids.
Towards the end of their fostering, he felt as if his parents only cared about the money they received for doing it. And speaking of money, his parents unequally buy things for him and his foster siblings.
“As the oldest and their bio kid, so they didn’t worry if I felt like I belonged or not, I had to make more sacrifices than my siblings,” he explained.
“Stuff for me came last. I got less than my siblings, too, and gifts were cheaper, so they could splurge a little for my siblings. So for Christmas, I’d maybe get some clothes and books (and I don’t really read) my siblings would get toys and tablets and stuff they loved. For my birthday, I’d get a smaller cake and essentials as gifts again.”
“When I was 12, my grandparents bought me a laptop for my birthday, and my parents pressured me into giving it up so it could be used as a family computer instead of a personal one just for me. I said no the first time, but my parents weren’t going to accept it.”
He rarely gets to see his friends since his parents hate paying for gas driving him around. They also won’t give him money to go out to eat or see a movie with his friends.
When he goes to birthday parties, his parents refuse to give him gifts to bring with him, so he has to ask his grandparents to help him. However, when his siblings go to birthday parties, his parents won’t send them without gifts.
His parents have asked him recently to get a job, but he knows they only want him to help make more money for them to spend.
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He has no interest in helping them out since they don’t treat him as nicely as they do his foster siblings.
This October, has the opportunity to go on an international trip with his school, and he begged his parents to come up with the money to send him.
He then asked his grandparents for help convincing his parents to allow him to go, and his parents have since agreed to send him and save up the money for his trip.
“Then, a week ago, my parents announced that my younger brother’s birth mom is pregnant again, and she approached them to do a private adoption so her kids could be raised together,” he said.
“My parents agreed. So they sat us down and told us and mentioned that they had already spent the money saved for the trip. They said things will change for a couple of years, but we’ll have a new member of the family.”
He was so hurt and angry that he got up and walked away from his mom and dad. They called after him to come back, but he kept on walking.
His parents were furious with him, and they called him childish and petty. His grandparents found out about his parents pulling the money for his trip, and they said they would pay.
But then his parents intervened and stated that if his grandparents give them money for the trip, they will take it away and make sure it goes to “more important things.”
He’s left wondering if it was wrong of him to walk away from his parents when they shared the news of adopting his foster brother’s new sibling.
What do you think?
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