She’s Convinced Her RA Is Obsessed With Her, Especially After He Sent 50 Photos Of Him On Vacation
This young woman currently attends college, and she just celebrated her 20th birthday. Unfortunately, it seems that her 27-year-old male RA is completely obsessed with her, and he is attending her college to complete his PhD.
Her RA has been incredibly kind towards everyone who lives in their on-campus housing, not just her.
But then, when she fainted once, her RA rushed to a nearby pharmacy to purchase a blood pressure monitor for her. Then, one time, when she had a terrible cold, he got her lemon and honey to help.
“He treats my other housemates with the same level of generosity,” she explained. “I’ve tried my best to be supportive in return by expressing curiosity and enthusiasm for his research and fun stories. I considered him a friend.”
“But about a month ago, he called me and asked [me] to meet him at our house’s front porch. When I got outside, he insisted we cross the street. He carefully looked around and then asked if I would like to go out on a date with him.”
“I was flabbergasted, especially since our age difference is so extreme. I also am not attracted to him. So I just replied that I’m flattered, but a romantic relationship wouldn’t be appropriate since we’re in completely different life stages. I thought this would be the end of him pursuing me, but I’ve been noticing odd, possibly obsessive behaviors ever since.”
On the property where they live, there are two houses. She lives in the back house while he lives in the front house.
She has caught him watching her through the window, and then he will come over to her house to chat with her.
While she would indicate that she was really in a hurry, he still would insist on talking to her about her life. He’s somewhat overbearing and makes it impossible for her to end any conversation with him.
Gorodenkoff – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
At the end of their last semester, their house hosted a party, and she invited a couple of her friends.
Throughout the whole evening, her RA refused to leave her group or go off and speak to other partygoers.
“An attendee I met the previous weekend was also there. We have a lot in common,” she said. “We had been texting all week and showing signs of mutual romantic interest.”
“But whenever we tried to have a moment alone together, this RA would barge in between us and kill the vibe with his own stories that weren’t relevant to our conversation.”
Another thing her RA does that is strange is that he sends her dozens of reels on Instagram that are totally random. Some of them even have steamy undertones.
Her RA will also send her a lot of text messages, and he frequently says sorry for crazy things he said earlier that she didn’t even take note of.
He then revisits messages he’s already sent her and edits them.
But the most creepy thing he’s done was show her some pictures he took in a location that was right by her family home.
He was there in her city for a conference, and she never mentioned the street she lives on, let alone what are of her city she’s originally from.
“Maybe this was just a funny coincidence, but I don’t think it bodes well with my other information,” she added.
“He has fortunately left for the semester. But that hasn’t stopped him from reaching out. Yesterday, he sent me 50 PHOTOS OF HIS VACATION with detailed descriptions. My phone was exploding for at least 15 minutes. Mind you, this was after I intentionally waited 4 days to open his last message and reply.”
“The good news is that I’m moving into another student house next year. But I feel like he’s becoming more persistent in spite of me showing super obvious signs that I’m not into him. How should I handle this? After how sweet he’s been, it feels wrong to outright say that I feel uncomfortable with him. Plus, I’m worried about how he will react if I try to completely cut him out. But I really need to set boundaries to feel safe next semester. Thoughts?”
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