She Wants To Start Having Kids, But Her Husband Doesn’t Want To Give Up Being A Party Animal
A month ago, this 32-year-old woman and her 31-year-old husband tied the knot after five years of dating.
All along, she’s known about her husband’s passion for clubbing, going to raves, and basically being a party animal.
Not long into dating her husband, he cheated a couple of times when he was out and about without her, so they implemented an agreement from there that he’s only allowed out when she comes with him.
She didn’t find out about his infidelity right away; she was only clued in years after it had happened. If she had learned about her husband’s cheating back when he did it, she probably would have handled things in a different way.
However, she picked counseling instead of dumping him, and the arrangement that he couldn’t party by himself came as another solution to staying together.
This brings us to now: they go out every single weekend, but she is no longer interested in living this life.
“One thing that’s really important to me is that, when we start a family, I don’t want to be home alone pregnant or with a child, while he is out all hours of the night doing [who] knows what,” she explained.
“It’s kind of a hard line for me and something I’m not ok with, in any way, shape, or form, and am not ok budging on. He, on the other hand, thinks I’m being completely unfair and controlling for this.”
“He thinks he should be allowed to do what makes him happy, and since he hasn’t cheated in 4 years, that should be proof that he should be trusted to party without me.”
Andrey Kiselev – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
Now, she did discuss having children, becoming parents, and leaving their partying ways behind them with her husband over the years.
They never discussed what expectations she has surrounding pregnancy, and that’s what led to their most recent conversation about getting ready to start a family.
Her timeline is within a year or more she would like to be pregnant, but her husband isn’t on board with that.
“I’m feeling so stuck,” she said. “I want a family and kids and I only have so much time to do that and share that with our parents.”
“I feel like I’d be an idiot to think he’d change. I hate that I’m even considering leaving, but should I? He insists there’s no guarantee what the future will be or where he’ll be at by the time we start trying for a baby. But he did still buckle down on “if you’re pregnant, you shouldn’t go out, but I should be allowed to and plan to.”
“It’s not what I want, but is it a deal breaker? He doesn’t think there’s anything wrong with a man going out to party while the pregnant woman stays home. Am I wrong for thinking that’s absolutely insane? Has any couple out there gone through this with no issue?”
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