She’s Been With Her Boyfriend For 5 Years And Still Hasn’t Told Him She’s Racked Up $15,000 In Credit Card Debt

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She’s Been With Her Boyfriend For Years, But He Doesn’t Know Her Secret

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A 26-year-old woman has been in a relationship with her 27-year-old boyfriend for just about 5 years, but she’s keeping a pretty big secret from him.

She Got A Credit Card At 18

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Back when she was 18-years-old, she received a credit card in the mail that she was pre-approved for, and since then, she’s gotten herself into a lot of credit card debt.

It’s Been Hard For Her To Admit She’s Awful With Money

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And she does admit that she is, well, bad when it comes to money though it’s been hard for her to finally realize this.

This Is How She Got Into Credit Card Debt

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“I went through the cycle of racking it up, paying it off, racking it up, then slowly paying it off,” she explained about her credit card debt.

In Contrast, Her Boyfriend Is Good With Money

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“I don’t live with my boyfriend, and he’s a very frugal person- he lives at home still because he wants to save up and buy a house.”

She Feels Terrible

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“This is why so much is weighing on me, I feel awful because he’s working so hard, and I’ve just been screwing myself over and him as well.”

She Did Tell Him She Was $2,500 In Debt Way Back When

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When she did start dating her boyfriend, she actually was quite honest about being in debt, which was approximately $2,500 back then.

She Paid That Off

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She managed to pay it all off…

But Got Herself Into More Debt

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…But then she started racking up credit card debt right after that, and she has not revealed that to her boyfriend.

Over The Last Year, She’s Spent A Ton

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Last year has been the worst on her wallet; she bought a car, got addicted to gambling online, adopted a dog that has cost her a lot in vet bills and care, and she took a vacation across the country to see her best friend.

She Actually Broke Up With Her Boyfriend For A Month

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A lot of her spending happened over the course of a month last summer when she broke up with her boyfriend, but they quickly got back together.

Her Debt Is Now $15,000

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All in, her credit card debt is now at around the $15,000 mark, and her boyfriend still has no idea.

She’s So Distraught

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“I’m so distraught, and I don’t know what to do anymore,” she said.

A Pregnancy Scare Made It Worse

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“We had a pregnancy scare, and right away, he was talking about how he’d need to work more, how we’ll have to start looking for a house. He already has a lot saved up for a house.”

She Feels Like She Betrayed Her Boyfriend

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“I feel as if I’ve betrayed him, that I haven’t done my fair share.”

She Has To Tell Her Boyfriend Her Big Secret

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She knows that she does need to tell her boyfriend her big secret, but she’s afraid of how upset he’s going to be with her.

She Doesn’t Want To Hurt Him

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“I fully expect him to be angry and hurt and feel betrayed, and I’m hurting just thinking of doing that to him,” she continued.

She’s Afraid He Might Dump Her

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“He might break up with me, and I have to accept that might happen.”

How Do You Think She Should Tell Him?

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