Months Before Her Best Friend’s $1 Million Dollar Italian Wedding, She Bowed Out Of Being Her Maid Of Honor

andriyyavor - stock.adobe.com - illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
andriyyavor - stock.adobe.com - illustrative purposes only, not the actual person

This woman and her best friend are currently 27, but they have been close since the age of 12. Four years ago, her best friend met her fiancé, who is super rich, and that’s exactly what attracted her best friend to this man.

Unfortunately, her best friend’s relationship has hardly been rainbows and unicorns. In fact, it’s been a pretty ugly mess that she’s witnessed up close and personal.

“She was initially drawn to his G-Wagon, which is why she was interested in him in the first place,” she explained.

“About six months into their relationship, they both cheated—he left her stranded in the Bahamas while interested in another girl, and she lied to us, her friends, about taking family trips when she was really using his G-Wagon to visit the guy she was cheating with or flying to California to see him.”

“They broke up, she dated the new guy until he cheated on her (karma), and then she got back with her now-fiancé. Throughout their rocky relationship, he bought a $1.5M condo, which she then designed entirely with his money.”

Two years ago, her best friend broke up once more with her fiancé, and her best friend then moved in with her.

One month later, her best friend and her fiancé were back on, and not long after that, they got engaged.

Her best friend and her fiancé have remained together ever since the latest split, though after her best friend’s engagement, she turned into a different person.

“But over the past two years, as she focused entirely on her $1M Italy wedding, we drifted apart,” she said.

andriyyavor – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person

“She doesn’t work and has spent the last 1.5 years on the wedding, making it her entire personality. Our friendship suffered, with incidents like her bringing a friend of hers, whom I am not friends with, to my birthday dinner, where she arrived an hour late and only talked about her wedding the entire time.”

When it was her best friend’s birthday, she spent several weeks planning a surprise party for her, so she was hurt by the lack of consideration on her best friend’s part.

Then, her best friend turned into a bridezilla, insisting that she had to dye her hair or wear a wig for the wedding.

Her best friend asked her to be her Maid of Honor, which she had said yes to, but as the wedding planning progressed, she was feeling like she should bow out.

“On top of that, she kissed another guy during her bachelorette trip and later got mad at her friends for not making their bachelorette Instagram posts all about her,” she added.

“She even had a meltdown on our bachelorette trip, throwing a tantrum and accusing us of being ungrateful.”

When she arrived home from the trip, it dawned on her that her best friend was no longer the person she thought she knew and loved.

So, she decided to drop out of her best friend’s wedding and no longer fulfill the role of her Maid of Honor. She also felt like ending their friendship.

She crafted a message to her best friend informing her that she was not going to be her Maid of Honor before requesting some space from her. She knows the message was severe, but it was warranted.

“A few weeks later, I found out I was pregnant,” she said. “Also, she and I talked, airing our grievances, but she only half-heartedly took responsibility.”

“We left things unresolved, and I hadn’t yet told her that I was pregnant. I eventually went to her bridal shower and birthday dinner, but we still didn’t clarify my role in the wedding or my invitation status.”

Then, her best friend texted her, demanding to know if she was going to be coming to her wedding. She really wished she could have had that conversation in person, but since her best friend was being so pushy, she had to text her back.

She ultimately chose to skip her best friend’s wedding, as she not only needed to save her money for her baby, but she also wanted to stay home because of her pregnancy.

A couple of days later, she was able to meet up with her best friend in person to clarify her decision to no longer come to Italy.

She mentioned to her best friend that she was pregnant, and then her best friend steered their chat right back to her wedding.

Her best friend was not happy about her pregnancy and made comments like she hoped she wouldn’t publicly announce her pregnancy at the same moment as her wedding and overshadow her.

“That was the last time we spoke. I announced my pregnancy and gender on Instagram (weeks before her wedding), and she didn’t comment, like, or congratulate me,” she continued.

“This weekend was her wedding, and I did send her a congratulatory message, but she hasn’t responded. I feel certain that stepping away was the right decision, but am I wrong to feel this way?”

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