She Caused Her Stepmom To Cry In Family Therapy After She Called Her Selfish For Making Her Dad Feel Awful For Watching The Videos Her Late Mom Recorded For Them
This 17-year-old girl currently attends family therapy along with her dad and stepmom, since her dad thought it would be helpful for them to discuss the issues they’re facing.
Her stepmom feels hurt that she’s closed her out of her life, and her stepmom desperately wants a relationship with her.
Back when she was five-years-old, her mom passed away. Her mom left videos behind for her, her two older brothers, and her dad.
“My dad got some birthday ones and a Christmas and wedding anniversary video. My brothers and I got every birthday until 18 that she’d miss, milestone birthdays, Christmas, and big events like our own weddings and babies,” she explained.
Three years after her mom’s passing, her stepmom moved into their home, and three years after that, her dad married her stepmom.
She got along alright with her stepmom when she was little, but she had a hard time looking at her like a mom.
When her dad got married, though, she began watching the videos her mom recorded with increasing frequency.
She thought about her mom more and more, and she missed her terribly. Her dad finding someone new to love made the loss of her mom feel more real.
One year into her dad’s marriage, her stepmom made nasty faces anytime someone in their family would watch a video from her mom.
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If her dad smiled at the videos, her stepmom would look super angry. Finally, her stepmom approached her and said she should give her the videos so she could keep them “safe.”
She was concerned that her stepmom would do something with them, so she declined to hand them over.
Several more years went by, and her stepmom admitted to her dad that the videos made her feel uneasy and like she didn’t fit in, especially since her dad appeared to be so deeply in love with her mom in the recordings.
“She also said she felt like the videos were a roadblock between her and us (me and my brothers),” she added.
“Dad compromised that he would watch his less, and she wouldn’t say anything to us. I saw my dad struggle with that for years. I saw him go to watch one of Mom’s videos and stop himself. Then, my stepmom and I started fighting because I didn’t want her to touch the disks the messages were recorded on.”
“She was also upset when my brothers did backups of all the disks so we’d always have the messages even if the originals were broken.”
“She told us we valued those more than we valued most people. Dad told her to leave us alone. But I stopped being as friendly with her as I was and shut her out. I left her out of prom stuff last year that she wanted to do with me, and I always say no to hanging out with her.”
A week ago, while in their family therapy appointment, she addressed the videos and called her stepmom “selfish” for trying to make her dad feel awful about wanting to watch them.
She stated that her mom was her dad’s first love, and so if her stepmom had any true love for her dad, she should be perfectly fine with him having the videos in his possession.
She then accused her stepmom of feeling like she’s somehow in second place due to the videos before circling around to why she didn’t hand her videos over to her stepmom all those years ago.
“She was so upset because she had no idea I had picked up on and heard so much. She cried and said I didn’t need to destroy her feelings like that,” she continued.
She’s left wondering if it was mean of her to call her stepmom selfish in family therapy.
What do you think?
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