There are a lot of reasons marriages fall apart, but few are as disturbing as a parent resenting their own child. For him, it wasn’t about lack of affection or effort, because he didn’t ignore his wife at all.
The breaking point was realizing that no matter what he did, she saw their daughter as a rival instead of her child. Even therapy couldn’t break her out of that toxic mindset, and eventually, he chose divorce to protect both himself and his little girl, but he’s having a hard time figuring out if he made the right call.
This man and his now ex-wife have a six-year-old daughter together. Back when he was still married, his wife would end up pouting and acting childish whenever he spent some time with their little girl.
His wife would say she felt as if his daughter was his affair partner, and that’s why she hated it when he hung out with her. How insane is that?
“I gave her plenty of affection which she AGREED on but the problem was that she couldnt hande that I gave part of my affection to our daughter, I asked her if she would have acted the same way if our daughter had been a BOY, she said no, we tried MC and IC but it didnt work in the end, she refused to change or at least TRY TO,” he explained.
He promptly filed for divorce, as he got sick of his ex-wife treating their daughter like his mistress. They do live in Scandinavia, and he essentially gained full custody of their daughter.
But he wants to go for full custody, as their daughter says she does not like to see her mom at all. What’s shocking is that his ex-wife’s mom and dad have witnessed his ex-wife treating their daughter this way.
His ex-wife’s family still speaks to his ex-wife since they want to be able to see their granddaughter. He allows them to see his daughter whenever they want, but they like to have access to her when she’s with her mom, too.
He’s left wondering if it was wrong of him to divorce his wife for what she said about their daughter.
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No child deserves to grow up with a parent who resents them for receiving love and attention, to say nothing of the terrible damage it can do.
If his daughter is already saying she doesn’t like being with her mom, that’s a serious red flag, and the courts should hear it. I think he should document everything, lean on the fact that even her grandparents have seen the behavior, and push for full custody since that’s what will keep his daughter safe and emotionally secure.
Divorce wasn’t the mistake here: that would’ve been staying and letting his daughter believe she was the problem.
What do you think?
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