Love might be blind, but marriage is a legal contract, and pretending otherwise is how people get burned. Asking for a prenup is a pretty reasonable occurrence in modern-day romances, but is expecting someone to sign one without equal representation fair?
This 26-year-old woman just got engaged to her 28-year-old fiancé following three years of dating one another. Her fiancé has been in the workforce for six years, while she’s working on completing her PhD program.
Her fiancé has a ton of assets and wealth compared to her, so he’s been demanding a prenup in order to protect himself. Now, she is totally fine with that request; however, she has a problem with how unfair her fiancé is being about the whole thing.
“I just asked him to pay for a lawyer for me to review it. He was miffed and asked why he should pay for my lawyer on top of paying for his lawyer to draft the prenup,” she explained.
“He said I could just trust him and sign without a lawyer looking at it. I said if he has a lawyer and I don’t, the prenup might not hold up in court if it came down to that.”
“And even if it did hold up in court, I’d want a lawyer anyway to make sure it’s fair because it’s unequal if he has one and I don’t. And quite frankly, the pre-nup is entirely benefiting him, so I don’t want to pay for it.”
Technically, she could afford to get herself a lawyer, but she would have to do some sacrificing to make that work. Also, her fiancé is wealthy and makes ten times more than what she does.
Given all of that, she doesn’t see why she should pay for a lawyer to review the prenup for her. They have not been able to come to a resolution, and she’s curious if she’s a jerk for expecting her fiancé to pay for a lawyer to help her.
Well, I for one find it alarming that her fiancé is refusing to level the playing field. If you expect someone to share your life, your home, and your future, they should at least have the right to share the same sense of security that you do, right?
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In conclusion, I think she needs to hold off on booking a wedding venue until the prenup situation gets sorted out, but I am doubting this guy sounds like a good match for her, given how selfish he is acting already.
A marriage should never be mine vs. yours, and a couple should be excited to share certain things while supporting one another.
What do you think?
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