If you found out that your dad was cheating on your mom with his biological niece of all people, would you cut him out of your life forever?
This woman’s dad is in his 70s, and it turns out he’s been having an affair with her cousin, who also just so happens to be his biological niece.
Her cousin is in her 30s, and half her dad’s age. The affair kicked off in January, and her dad and mom got married 50 years ago.
“My mother found out because they were planning on buying a house together, and he was going to leave my mom. After she found out, she allowed him to stay in their marital home for about a week (he was apparently waiting to close on his new home) and during that week, [he] and my mother reconciled,” she explained.
She is empathetic towards her mom, but if she was in her position, she never would have chosen to fix the marriage. She’s worried that her dad manipulated her mom into staying with him.
Her heart breaks for her mom, who thought she had a perfect marriage for five decades. She learned of the affair back in May and has not talked to her dad since then.
She’s appalled and horrified that her dad could do such a thing. She used to believe that her dad was her hero and her best friend, but that image of him has shattered.
She and her dad both work as nurses, and they used to do pretty much everything together. She has three sons, who are three, nine, and eleven, and they all looked up to her dad, too.
“My dad is very well respected in our little community and has no previous deviant behavior (to my knowledge). I have spoken with my mom a few times since they reconciled, and [although] I am not angry at her, I am naturally angry at my dad and do not trust him at all,” she added.
“I have never felt this level of devastation before. My mom swears that he sees how wrong he was and is in intensive therapy. She would like to slowly start becoming a family again.”
“We live less than 10 minutes from my parents, so we used to see them several times a week. I am extremely concerned about the deviant behavior and am concerned for my children’s safety, although he has no history of inappropriate activity with children.”
She has spoken to her siblings, her friends, and several therapists, who are all not sure what she should do here. Her husband is happy to go along with whatever she feels is best.
She’s left wondering what the best decision is.
Well, her dad is a creep, that’s for sure, but I don’t think she needs to worry about him around her kids, because that’s a stretch. I feel so sad for her because her dad ruined her family by being selfish.
Her dad had to have known he crossed one messed-up line. I would be mortified if this was my dad, and I don’t blame her if she chooses to never have a relationship with him again.
What advice do you have for her?
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