Love can make people do ridiculous things, like go into debt for someone who’d leave them over a ring. But love can distort logic. It can leave you justifying the unreasonable, calling it devotion, and labeling what you had to sacrifice as proof.
Back when this man was broke as a joke (and now, just to clarify, he’s not), he went into debt in order to be able to buy a $20,000 engagement ring for the love of his life. Well, she threatened to leave him if he didn’t hurry up and buy her a ring, so he went out and did just that.
He proposed on June 7th, and twenty days later, the engagement got called off due to some problems he had with his now ex-fiancée spending too much time with the male friends who flirted with her.
His ex-fiancée accused him of being insecure and loved to fight with him about how unsettled he was over her friend group, and it became too much for him to deal with.
Also, it didn’t help that he was in the middle of trying to raise money for a startup idea he had, and his ex-fiancée decided to fly to New York alone to get some space.
As July came to a close, he and his ex-fiancée quit speaking to one another, though she did tell him before that happened that she still had the pricey engagement ring. Honestly, I’m surprised he didn’t ask for it back then.
He was working a full-time job and trying to get his dream off the ground, and while all of that was stressful, nothing was worse than the anxiety his ex-fiancée brought to his life.
“Fast forward [to] Oct 11, our anniversary, I text her something nostalgic, she texts me back hours later, and we meet. She tells me she missed me, and I did too, etc I ask her about the ring, she says it’s in a safe place,” he explained.
“She said I deserve a necklace ($3k), and me being [silly] gave her the money for it. Anyway, on and off for a few weeks until we get into an argument again. I tell her since it was her who broke up with me, [the] social norm requires [that] she return it.”
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“She told me she threw it away. She has said this before, but at the time, it was a lie. Not sure if she’s lying again…”
He’s curious if she’s playing him and if she perhaps kept the ring or sold it. Regardless, he’s curious what he should do next.
I think that he needs to stop chasing closure, because this is leaning that way. The ring is gone, maybe literally, maybe not, but either way, it’s the price he paid to learn who she really is.
What advice do you have for him?
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By Bre Avery Zacharski
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