I am of the opinion that when you meet the person you want to spend the rest of your life with, you know pretty quickly. But that being said, jumping right into being married isn’t the wisest idea, as there’s a lot that comes along with determining compatibility and sorting out how to live your lives, well, together.
What would you say if the person you were dating for only five months publicly ambushed you and proposed in front of all of your loved ones? Would it be a yes or a no? Do you think five months is enough time to get to really know someone?
This 26-year-old woman and her 26-year-old boyfriend have been dating for five months now. Prior to meeting her boyfriend, she was married to a man, and it ended in divorce.
Throughout the time spent with her boyfriend, they discussed how they feel about marriage, and she expressed that she would like to refrain from talking about marriage or an engagement for several years.
“He asked about proposal preferences, and I mentioned that I’d want something sweet and simple with just the 2 of us. No extravagance, no crowd,” she explained.
“Conversation ended, and he told me he was happy to have that ‘boyfriend and girlfriend ‘ label for a few years. During the past few months, things were going good, and he didn’t bring up marriage again, but within the past week, he did start acting suspicious.”
“He started gift bombing me, sending me money for nice outfits and to get my nails done, and being a bit too overaffectionate. Although these gestures are sweet, it did raise a red flag inside me.”
Yesterday evening, her boyfriend said he wanted to pick her up and take her out on a dinner date. However, he then drove her out to a lake, and she noticed there was an enormous, lit-up sign that brightly read, ‘Marry me.’
There was a red carpet rolled out, flowers and lights everywhere, and her friends and family members were all in attendance. She got out of the car, walked over to the spot with him where he clearly wanted to propose, and watched as he got down on one knee.
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She felt humiliated and uneasy. In hindsight, she wished she had turned her boyfriend down in the moment, but she freaked out and said she would marry him. She wanted to save him from being embarrassed in front of a literal crowd.
She can hardly remember the drive back home, but later on, she came clean and informed her boyfriend that she cannot actually marry him.
“It exploded into a big argument, and that’s when I broke up with him and left. Part of me understands he was ready before I was, but he took my preferences and time that I needed before that commitment and threw it away for what only he wanted,” she continued.
“I took it as a sign that he will try to put me on the spot and manipulate me into having things his way when he wants to in the future.”
“I’ve been having friends and family tell me that I’m being dramatic and what he’s done for me is ‘sweet and romantic’…Am I overreacting?”
I’m alarmed that her loved ones didn’t tip her off, because it’s insane for anyone to propose to someone after only five months of dating (I mean, most people don’t even meet their partner’s parents in this amount of time).
He obviously has no respect for her because she made it clear she would need a few years to feel comfortable making this kind of commitment to him.
She did the right thing dumping this guy, and she should run far away and never look back.
What do you think?
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By Bre Avery Zacharski
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