Her Sister's Married And Also Has A Girlfriend, But She Doesn't Want This Side Chick At Her Christmas Party

Christmas isn't meant to be a social experiment. It's one of the few days a year that’s supposed to feel predictable and inviting. But what are you supposed to do when your married sibling insists on bringing their new side piece? Set a place at the table for them, or tell your sibling no way?

This woman has a sister who likes men and women, and her sister has been married for a decade. A couple of months back, her sister got a girlfriend...and she still has her husband, who is also dating another girl. So they both have girlfriends, and they're still together.

Her sister hosted Thanksgiving this year at her house with their family, and her girlfriend was there. She knows her sister can do what she wants in her house, and she didn't expect her sister to ask for permission.

However, she and the rest of her loved ones were shocked that her sister invited her girlfriend to spend the holiday with them, since she hadn't been with her for that long, and the relationship itself is, well, atypical.

Barely one month after that, her sister let it slip that her girlfriend had officially moved into the house that she owns with her husband.

"Even though her husband has a girlfriend outside the family, he is not trying to involve her at all to the same extent, and I don’t think he has ever even brought her to their house," she explained.

Anyway, she's the one having the family Christmas party this year, and the guest list is capped at her mom, siblings, and any long-term significant others (for example, her partner and her sister's husband).

She figured her sister would get the hint that her girlfriend wasn't exactly welcome, but a handful of days ago, her sister said she wanted to bring her side chick along.

She doesn't want to hurt her sister's feelings by excluding this girl, but she wants Christmas to be only for their closest loved ones to have dinner and share gifts.

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It also makes her extremely uneasy that her sister's new romance is moving at a breakneck pace. Also, her sister waited at least a year or two into dating her husband before she invited him for Christmas.

"It just seems wildly out of place for her to involve someone that isn’t her main partner with the family, and I don’t know why she doesn’t realize that," she continued.

"I don’t want her to feel attacked for being poly because I don’t care that she has multiple relationships, but I wish she would keep her side relationships separate from family."

"And even if she wasn’t poly, I don’t think it would be appropriate to bring such a new relationship and someone we’ve met once to our small and intimate family gathering."

She's left wondering if it would be mean of her to tell her sister to leave her girlfriend at home.

I understand feeling protective over Christmas and the specialness of the holiday season. It's totally fair for her to tell her sister she doesn't want her girlfriend there because she's, well, not their family, and it's going to require a lot more work and effort to get to know a new person in a setting like that.

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