We learn back in kindergarten to keep our hands to ourselves, and it’s something we stick to in our adult years, because we know it’s wrong to hit, push, or kick another person.
What would you do if your spouse slapped you because they were so overwhelmed with negative news? Would you extend empathy, or would you promptly pack your bags?
This 41-year-old woman has spent the last seven years married to her 38-year-old husband. On December 26th, she went out for a walk, and when she arrived back home, she found her husband sobbing in the kitchen.
He had bloodshot eyes, and his mom was standing there, trying to console him, but she was not crying at all. Terrified, she asked everyone what was going on.
Her husband told her it was nothing and said she should go upstairs. Not buying that there wasn’t a dire situation at hand, she once more questioned her husband about the events in the kitchen. He screamed at her and demanded that she leave.
“He turned away from me, so I touched his shoulder and asked again if he needed to tell me because I was scared. That’s when he slapped me so hard on my face [that] it left a mark,” she explained.
“I found out later that his mom got [a] cancer diagnosis from her doctor. She wanted to keep it private until she could tell everyone.”
“I understand that, of course, and I would never have imposed if I even thought it [was] something like that. Still, I have never felt like this before. I have never been slapped before or even been in a fight as a kid.”
She has had trouble sleeping and eating since her husband slapped her, and she has been crying on and off. She understands that her husband is beside himself over his mom only having a few months to live, but that’s not an excuse for what he did.
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She has never put her hands on her husband in all the years they’ve been together, and this is the first time he’s slapped her. She’s more humiliated than physically hurt, but she still can’t get over the shock.
She filled her family in on what went down in the kitchen, and they all believe her husband deserves time and space since he is so upset.
Since then, her husband has been refusing to speak to her and sleeping on the couch. She has not received an apology from him.
Slapping someone is, in my opinion, something you can’t rebound from. It’s terrifying that her husband acted like this, and I’m afraid he’s going to escalate as his mom grows more ill or passes away.
Bad news about a loved one is not a valid reason to put your hands on your spouse, and I think she should leave the house immediately and file for divorce, because there’s no guarantee of her safety now.
Do you think her husband deserves sympathy?
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