It’s reasonable to expect your parents to be on your side in a dramatic situation where you actually can’t be cast as the villain. Yet, this guy unfortunately had his parents turn their backs on him even after his wife’s cheating was brought to light, along with the fact that their children were secretly fathered by another man.
As this man was in the middle of divorcing his wife, Sarah, his parents were doing everything to convince him to change his mind. Sarah is the daughter of his mom and dad’s best friends, and he had two children with Sarah, whom his parents think the world of.
His parents really did their best to make him remain in the marriage…even after he found out that Sarah cheated and his kids weren’t even his!
In the end, he walked away with a deal that he found fair; Sarah got their house, they divided up all their additional assets, and he was not required to pay child support or spousal support.
He did have to get DNA tests to prove the paternity of his kids (turns out they belong to the guy Sarah was cheating on him with), and he sued Sarah’s other man for paternity fraud with his mountain of evidence.
It was like his heart got ripped out of his chest, finding out his kids were fathered by another man. And how his parents handled everything made it so much worse.
“My parents said I was evil. They actually called me evil for walking away from a cheater and two kids that weren’t biologically mine,” he explained.
“I moved cities for my mental health. I started over. It [was horrible] that I did this without support from my family. My parents pretty much poisoned my extended family against me. I have a job that I can do from anywhere, so I didn’t even have to switch employers.”
“My parents insisted on sending me pictures of the kids, so eventually I completely cut them off. I wasn’t interested. I am still not interested now. Obviously, they chose to stay in their lives, so I needed them out of mine. It took months of blocking every attempt for them to catch a clue.”
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Two years after his divorce from Sarah, he got remarried. He and his wife just welcomed their first child together, and he has no idea how his parents discovered the news, but they did.
They have since gotten a new phone number to reach out to him, demanding to meet their grandson. He told his mom and dad that they already have two grandkids, so they need to leave his son alone.
His mom and dad argued that they had a right to be in his son’s life, but he put them in their place and threatened to get a lawyer involved if he had to.
“I have no idea what is going on with Sarah and the kids. I don’t care. I do know that for at least six months after the divorce, they were still heavily involved with her and the kids,” he continued.
“My wife has my back, and her family understands my past. I never liked to [tell] them about why I am out of contact with my family and my ex.”
“Am I wrong for keeping them away from their first biological grandchild after they chose nonbiological ones over me?”
Well, his parents did side with his ex-wife over him, who is nothing but a liar and a cheater, and that’s painful. I don’t blame him for wanting to cut his mom and dad out of his life.
There’s no use replying to them; he should just keep on blocking their every move. I don’t see how there’s anything they could say or do to make them worthy of a second chance.
What do you think? Is it evil to walk away from children you thought were yours once you find out you’ve been lied to?
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By Bre Avery Zacharski
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