It must be gut-wrenching to look back on your perfect relationship and see that it was built on nothing but a foundation of fiction. She thought her boyfriend was everything she ever wanted, but her world came crashing down when a public social media post popped up for a baby, revealing that her boyfriend isn’t just married; he has a pregnant wife on top of that.
This 32-year-old woman has a 36-year-old boyfriend, whom she’s been with for a couple of months. Now, he told her that he was separated from his wife, and she was under the impression that she could spot a liar a mile away.
Unfortunately, she just found out that her boyfriend is actually married, not separated, and his wife is currently pregnant!
“I didn’t find out because he came clean. I found out through a public post for an event for the baby. All this time, we had said we loved each other and talked about a future,” she explained.
“In hindsight, I never actually got to consent to an honest relationship or a real possibility. He insists his wife is out of the picture, doesn’t live in the same state, even.”
“He’s been absent from her pregnancy all this time, apparently. Meanwhile, she has no idea he’s been in a full-blown relationship while pregnant. He says he ‘doesn’t know’ how things will play out once the baby arrives, but wants to keep talking to me.”
She’s been thinking about all of the moments she’s spent so far with her boyfriend, and she can’t pick out a single red flag amongst them.
That’s what’s most upsetting to her; there were no obvious signs that he had been lying and cheating. He’s come across as nothing but an upstanding guy.
She realizes she needs to leave her boyfriend and keep away from him since he’s a married man, but it’s been pretty difficult for her to dump him.
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She doesn’t want to go back to him, but she’s struggling.
I understand that it’s hard for her to process that her boyfriend is another woman’s husband and that he’s expecting a child with his wife, but she does need to find the courage to cut him out of her life and keep things that way.
How you get them is how you lose them, right? And even though she didn’t know this man has been married the whole time, since he’s willing to cheat on his wife, he will most likely do the same thing to her if she accepts staying in a relationship with him.
He clearly has no respect for women or monogamy. Since his poor wife doesn’t know that she exists, I think she should reach out to this woman and give her a heads-up.
What advice do you have for her? Do you think she has a moral obligation to reach out and tell her boyfriend’s wife what has been happening?
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By Bre Avery Zacharski
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