Giving birth is, well, a mess. There is a high amount of bodily fluids associated with bringing a baby into the world, and it can look like a crime scene.
How would you feel if your friend gave birth in your spouse’s car? Would you be upset with her for ruining it, even if she offered to pay you for the damage done?
Two weeks ago, this 27-year-old woman was close to giving birth. Her partner left their house to go help her brother one afternoon, and so her friend Alice said she could spend the day with her so she would not be all alone.
She was happy to have Alice with her that day, and they watched a couple of movies together. She was feeling wildly uneasy the entire time, but since she was at the end of her pregnancy, she figured that was just part of the territory.
She never imagined that her discomfort was a sign that she would shortly be going into labor. But as the hours went by, she and Alice recognized that she was ready to welcome her baby into the world.
She phoned her wife to tell her, and then she and Alice said they would wait for her to drive back home before heading over to the hospital.
Her labor progressed quickly, so she had no choice but to ask Alice to give her a ride to the hospital. Alice seemed to be perfectly fine with this and agreed to be her driver.
“We didn’t fully make it to the hospital, and I ended up having my daughter in her (husband’s) car. We’re both fine, luckily. I had a few complications, which are now okay again,” she explained.
“Our baby is beyond perfect, and though my wife is having [a] hard time with having missed her birth, we have a wonderful tiny human to focus on.”
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“Things have been really messed up with Alice and her husband, though, and I don’t know how to solve it. Two days after all that happened, I sent her a message thanking her again for everything she had done and told her (lighthearted but sincere) to please send me a bill for having the car cleaned.”
It took Alice a long time to respond, and eventually, she simply liked the text but didn’t actually write anything back. She proceeded to send Alice a few more texts, but she was still met with silence.
Alice’s husband then messaged her to say she should stop texting Alice. Alice’s husband congratulated her on her bundle of joy before stating she ruined his car.
It’s really unusual for Alice to act like this, and as for Alice’s husband, they were on good terms despite her not being his biggest fan for how he rudely talks to Alice on occasion.
“I don’t know how to solve this. Did I just traumatise her so much and need to leave her alone? Do I keep trying? I’m so grateful for all she’s done that day,” she added.
She does completely understand that she destroyed Alice’s husband’s car, and she, of course, intended to compensate them for the damage.
She didn’t listen to Alice’s husband and sent her one more text to say sorry if she caused Alice any trauma. In that message, she also insisted on paying Alice and her husband for the damage, even if it costs a fortune.
She promised to make it right and offered to rent Alice’s husband a car in the meantime until it can be professionally cleaned for them.
In the end, Alice blocked her number, so she’s left feeling even more hurt and confused.
Given that Alice’s husband doesn’t have the best track record of speaking to Alice in a respectful or kind way, I wonder if he flipped out on Alice for the birth that happened in his car.
I think she should get a couple of quotes to clean the car, print them out, and take them over to Alice’s house while physically checking on her. And she should make sure Alice’s husband isn’t home when she stops by.
Alice may or may not open the door, but at least she can leave behind the quotes and show them that she’s serious about getting the car fixed up.
What advice do you have for her?
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By Bre Avery Zacharski
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