If your spouse asked you for a divorce, would you grant them that without question, or would you try to fight to save your relationship with them?
This woman has spent close to a decade with her husband, and they got married last year, ending up pregnant following their nuptials.
She was under the impression that everything was wonderful between them. A couple of weeks ago, her husband mentioned he no longer thought that they were a good fit.
He cited her not having the relationship he wishes she had with his family as one of his main problems with her.
“[He] said he loves me, but he’s not in love with me. Then said he doesn’t even know if he was in love with me when we got married or when he proposed,” she explained.
“I moved across the country for him. Left my job. Left my family. Gave up being close to my nieces and nephews. All of it. And now he’s saying this while I’m over five months pregnant.”
Her husband stated they can file for divorce after their baby is born, but meanwhile, they’re betwixt and between. Her husband says they should still keep on living together.
He even suggested they could still be romantic, but she promptly shut that down. It’s definitely bizarre that her husband thinks they lack compatibility, yet wants to keep on acting like a married couple.
She let her husband know that she will not be pleading with him to pick her for the next few months until she gives birth, as that’s the deadline he put on the divorce.
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“[I said] that if he wants out, he can go, but I’m not chasing someone who already told me they don’t know if they ever loved me,” she added.
“Now he’s upset. Says I gave up too easily. That he wanted me to fight for us. But how am I supposed to fight for something when he’s already saying he’s not sure he was ever in it?”
Her family insists it’s time for her to move back home to be with them, and while she would like to, she’s stuck feeling like it’s not a reasonable thing for her to do while she’s pregnant.
She will have to find a new job and another doctor. And she’s due in a few short months. Her husband has since said he loves her and would like to try to make their marriage work, but he’s all talk and no action.
“He just wants me to keep trying while he sits back and decides if I’m worth staying for. I don’t think I should have to audition for my own husband,” she continued.
“Am I wrong for refusing to beg?”
I think she should hurry up and head home before her baby is born, because it will be a lot more difficult for her to get a fresh start with a newborn by her side.
It’s just so unfair of her husband to ask for a divorce, but say they can get one after the baby arrives. Is he in, or is he out? He’s sending mixed messages.
Anyway, if I was married to someone who said they probably never loved me, that would be enough for me to want out for good.
What do you think? Should she try to work this out with her husband, or pack her bags?
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