I can’t picture why a guy who thinks women don’t add value to the lives of men would be dating women at all, can you? If women lack worth, doesn’t it make sense to stay single?
This 24-year-old girl was recently telling her 26-year-old boyfriend a story about a couple they know, and somehow the conversation turned to the value a woman contributes to a man’s life.
“I was basically saying we can’t know for sure why the man keeps the woman around, but it must be because she brings some value to his life,” she explained.
“That’s when he started getting a bit apprehensive, and began saying things like ‘what value does a woman bring to a man?’ He started saying things along the lines of ‘normally you can see the value a man brings to a woman (only materialistic), but women don’t bring the same.'”
“At this point, I was a bit bewildered by the conversation, but still tried to end it amicably by saying value isn’t only materialistic, and maybe he’s only viewing it in a tangible sense – again, I was (in delusion) praying and hoping he was referring to the specific situation we were talking about.”
But then her boyfriend turned it around and asked her directly what value she adds to his life, and that’s when it got far too personal for her.
She replied that the question was one that only her boyfriend knew the answer to, and he responded that he actually didn’t know.
Her boyfriend kept on asking her to outline the value she provides him. She said she would not be answering his question, nor would she permit him to disparage her.
“I then asked him why he wants to settle down and marry me if I add no value to his life… I then told him since I add no value, I’ll just leave, and he got upset at me and told me I ‘wasted his time,'” she continued.
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“Anyway, I broke things off with him, but the complication is I’m pregnant right now, and so my emotions are a mess. He was also inebriated last night, so I’m not sure if it’s something I should be open to talking about if he reaches back out to me or if I should just fully close the door and accept it and be a single mother, as painful as that reality is.”
I don’t care how many drinks he had; the fact that he told her she’s worthless in regard to his life is wild to me. It’s unforgivable, really.
And as they say, drunk words are sober thoughts, so he probably has felt like she doesn’t add value to his life all along, and this was a moment for that truth to surface in an ugly way.
Since he thinks women are worthless, including her, no, she should not even entertain getting back together with him if he tries to open up that door.
What advice do you have for her?
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By Bre Avery Zacharski
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