It’s so messy to have kids mixed in with an affair and divorce, and rarely do you hear about that being anything but a complete dumpster fire.
And it’s always so fascinating when the side chick plays homewrecker, then can’t understand why the kids don’t want anything to do with her.
This 34-year-old woman used to be married to her 35-year-old ex-husband, Dan, and they have four children: a seven-month-old son, a five-year-old daughter, a seven-year-old daughter, and a ten-year-old daughter.
Dan ended up cheating on her with his 23-year-old coworker, Kennedy, while she was clueless about the affair and the fact that Dan and this girl had a secret one-year-old son together.
They’re still in the middle of a divorce, and she’s doing her best to keep it all polite for the sake of their kids. She loves saying bad things about Dan in her head, but she doesn’t dare to repeat those words in front of the children.
She wants her kids to be out of the mess that Dan made and enjoy their childhoods. The kids are having a tough time, and they prefer being with her as they hate seeing Dan with another girl.
Her kids have since relayed to her that Dan’s affair partner turned girlfriend badmouths her, as they tell her what happens when they’re at that house.
“This girl even stalks my Instagram, like you have the man and the baby, so why bother me? She said that she won in life because she gave Dan his first son, okay, want a cookie?” she asked.
“Dan and I coparent; we have a smooth schedule. The problem is the girlfriend; she inserts herself into everything. She likes to call my kids ‘our kids,’ just to spite me, and she always does this fake laugh to get under my skin.”
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“She says she’s the bonus mom, but my kids don’t like her. They said she tries to be their friend, and they hate it.”
Several weeks ago, Kennedy stated they needed to coparent, too, but she didn’t make those kids with this woman, only Dan, so she didn’t agree.
A week ago, while dropping her kids off with Dan for his custody time, her youngest daughter was silent and sad. She spoke to all the kids before they left her car, and Kennedy was present, rubbing her hip on Dan in front of her.
Her youngest daughter refused to greet Kennedy and only said hi to Dan, and Kennedy literally grabbed her. Her daughter reminded Kennedy that she’s not her mom and didn’t have to say hi to her.
She wanted to freak out, but she kept her cool. She stepped up to Kennedy and slapped her hand away from her daughter while warning Kennedy not to lay a hand on her child like that.
“She responded with, ‘Oh well, she needs to have respect for me because I will be in their life.’ Mind you, they are children [who] came from a two-parent household just for it to go away, so this will not be a fast process for them. It was a tit for tat,” she said.
“My final response was that I meant what I said. I told her, ‘Just because she has [a] Dan baby doesn’t mean she is their mother, or will replace me, so respect that.'”
“Dan is actually a scary man because later on that day, he texted me saying I made her feel bad about herself when she only wants to be a happy family…but I’m private, I did discipline my daughter and told her that Kennedy isn’t her mom, but to still be respectful even if she doesn’t like her (only told her this so she can get on [Kennedy’s] good side, to build my case).”
Kennedy’s in for an unfortunate lesson: you cannot force kids to like you, especially after you tear their family apart and come between their mom and dad.
Her kids are all old enough to fault Kennedy for upending their lives, because they can see what’s going on. Although she did a good job handling Kennedy, I highly doubt Kennedy will come to understand that these kids will hate her for the rest of their lives, and she can’t change that.
Respect is something that is earned, and with Kennedy’s homewrecker status, that’s not ever going to happen.
Do you think she was wrong for telling Kennedy off?
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