About two weeks ago, TikToker Susie (@susie.in.nyc) went on a terrible date with a finance bro in New York City. The experience led her to delete her dating profile.
A few weeks ago, they matched on a dating app and exchanged a couple of messages. She ended up ghosting him because he kept asking her what she was doing every night, which made it seem like he only wanted to hook up.
A week later, she was out with her friend when a guy approached her and asked to buy her a drink. She did not recognize him at first, but once he introduced himself, she put two and two together. It was the same guy she had ghosted.
“Anyway, we really hit it off,” Susie said. “I think we were both just really enthralled by the fact that we had been brought together unexpectedly like this. And so, we were talking for ages, and then we started making out.”
After an hour or two, he invited her back to his place, but she declined. She got his phone number instead. The next day, he texted her, and they made plans to go out for drinks at a very casual spot that didn’t even have proper tables for people to sit at.
She was slightly disappointed because it didn’t feel like he was being intentional about planning the date. She expected him to pick somewhere that had reservations. She decided to go along with it anyway.
About an hour before the date, he told her that he was running a little late because he needed to stop by his friend’s birthday party. She was annoyed that he had scheduled a date on the same night as an event he knew he had to attend.
“What’s convenient for him is because he picked a casual walking spot, so he can keep pushing it back as late as he wants because he doesn’t even have to be there for a reservation time,” Susie pointed out.
“It becomes 9:00, then 9:15, then 9:20, 9:30, to the point where I’m literally not even putting on my makeup.”
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Finally, they met at 9:45, an hour and 15 minutes later than they had originally agreed to meet. They had nice conversation and strong chemistry during their date. But an hour later, the bar was closing. He suggested that they either find a different bar or go back to his place.
She knew that he wouldn’t be able to find a good spot to go to on such short notice, so she agreed to go back to his place to keep hanging out.
She stopped to use the restroom first, but when she came back out, he said that his friends just texted, so he wanted to meet up with them instead.
Before they could discuss it any further, he gave her a quick goodbye kiss and left her standing there alone. She ordered an Uber and went home. Later that night, he texted her at 1 a.m. to invite her over.
“So, he literally ditched his date with me to go out with his friends to try and find girls, and then presumably couldn’t find any girls, so he’s like, actually, I want you back after all,” said Susie. “Obviously, I said no.”
They made plans to see each other the next night instead. But the day came and went without a word from him. Part of her knew that he wasn’t going to follow through with the plans. She didn’t hear from him the following week.
When he finally texted back, she told him that she didn’t want to deal with his flaky behavior anymore. He didn’t even apologize, just unfollowed her on social media.
By Emily Chan
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