When an attractive, married person is cooking for you, complimenting you, and telling you it’s hard not to fall in love with you, is it easy to convince yourself it’s harmless?
This 29-year-old man has a 29-year-old female coworker, whom he’s known for close to a year so far. He is aware that his coworker has been married for the last three years, but he’s never met her husband; he’s only heard about him.
He and his coworker have lunch together every day, but they don’t interact with one another outside of the office. They don’t have each other’s cell phone numbers or social media information.
“Over the past few months, we have been cooking for each other often, and we share the same lunch. It started when she just baked some raspberry cookies for me, which is my favorite dessert,” he explained.
“I like to cook, so I started cooking some of her favorite foods too, which [are] usually different types of pasta.”
At first, they would joke around a bunch while eating together on their lunch breaks, but lately, their conversations have taken a personal turn.
His coworker stated that she wished she were married to a man who could cook and even questioned him about his dating life, including whether he’s seeing someone.
Truthfully, he goes on dates with women he meets on the apps, but he’s not officially in a relationship or seeing anyone consistently.
“Yesterday she laughed and said it’s hard not to fall in love with someone who cooks like me. She meant it as a joke, but I don’t know,” he continued.
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“Is what I’m doing inappropriate? I won’t lie, she’s really attractive, and it does give me a sort of an ego boost when she compliments me so much.”
“However, I don’t really want to be a home wrecker and destroy someone’s life, and looking at her husband’s pictures (she showed them to me), he seems like a really nice and hardworking dude.”
Oh, and his coworker has been holding his hand, touching his leg, and sitting next to him instead of across from him (which is what she used to do up until recently).
He’s left wondering if he should quit having lunch with his coworker.
While he hasn’t done anything to cross the line, she sure has, putting her hands on him like that and hitting on him! There is nothing wrong with the act of having lunch with his coworker or cooking for her, but the things she’s saying and doing should be sounding the alarm for him.
I can’t believe it honestly took him this long to be uneasy about what she’s doing. This is one slippery slope, and he needs to quit having lunch with this woman.
What do you think?
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By Bre Avery Zacharski
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