If you were undergoing IVF with your partner, and they were super rude and dismissive to you, what would you do? Would you still feel like having a baby with them?
Yesterday, this woman began her fifth IVF cycle, and she was feeling horrible while experiencing terrible cramps. Her husband was at work while all of this was happening, and after he returned home from the office, she filled him in.
Well, she also called him while he was working to inform him about the cramps. Anyway, after he returned home, he did at least check on her and wanted to know how she was feeling before heading off alone to have dinner with his family.
They currently live with her husband’s sister and his mom. Her husband was gone for an hour to eat with her in-laws, while she didn’t go too.
“…When he came back to the room, I told him that I needed him, and he could have rushed his dinner today and sat with me to comfort me,” she explained.
“As I only have him. None of his family members cares for me. None of them has asked me how I am doing or taken care of me. I mostly make my own food or order online.”
“When I complained that he should have rushed today and sat with me, he got defensive, and we didn’t speak and went to sleep.”
This brings us to today. She had an appointment to get a scan done to track how her IVF is going, and she asked her husband if he could come along with her.
He said no and told her to go by herself. Five minutes later, he changed his mind and texted her that he would attend the appointment.
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While they were driving there together, she attempted to discuss her feelings with her husband, but that didn’t go well at all.
“In the car, I tried talking to him and told him that I had asked for only 10days of him caring for me and keeping his ego aside,” she continued.
“The argument turned a little heated, and he asked me to shut up. Said that I was very difficult and that I am always on a roll about something or the other.”
“I take care of all our medications and all the appointments. He is paying for the IVF. I feel really lonely. If for 10 days he can’t take care of me( check my medications, check what I am eating or not), how will he ever take care of me?”
She knows she’s extra hormonal right now, and that’s making her feel even more dejected and insane. She’s left wondering what to do.
Ugh, she should not be having a baby with a man like this, who ignores her and prioritizes his family over her. I am surprised he even wants to be a dad, given their dynamics here.
If he’s treating her like garbage now, it won’t improve after a baby gets added to the mix. I wonder if she can stop the process and not follow through, because it will be easier to leave if she doesn’t have a kid attached.
What advice do you have for her?
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By Bre Avery Zacharski
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