I suppose some red flags don’t start flying until after the ink is dry on a marriage license. Most newlyweds are still on cloud nine 60 days after tying the knot, not fighting over an ex.
It’s fine to be a little curious about your partner’s past, but bizarre to treat their dating history like a failed background check. Imagine being told your spouse is disgusted by you because your ex didn’t come from the right tax bracket.
If you thought classism was a thing of the past, wait until you hear how his wife is threatening a divorce before the wedding thank-you notes have even been mailed.
Two months ago, this 33-year-old man got married to his 28-year-old wife. For the last month, his ex-girlfriend has been the hot topic of conversation between them, and he thinks his wife must have seen a photo of her on Instagram to have kicked this off.
His wife has been furious with him and insists she’s grossed out that he dated such a poor and low-class girl in the first place.
The thing is, his ex did grow up poor. Her mom raised her alone, and her dad was not in her life. Now, his ex makes decent money, but that’s the story of her roots. As for why he dumped his ex, she came with a couple of habits he wasn’t a fan of.
His wife grew up in the upper-middle class, and she was a star student from kindergarten through college. His wife makes a ton more money than his ex-girlfriend does. His wife’s family is important to her, and she’s constantly looking for ways to improve herself.
But anyway, his wife has never met his ex-girlfriend, and it’s not like he’s told his wife anything about her at all. That’s why he suspects his wife came across photos of her on social media and decided to cause a problem after that.
“She has been on/off about this topic, threatening divorce, or seeing other men that [are] of ‘higher’ quality than me, just because she thinks my ex is low-class,” he explained.
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“She said she’s disgusted by me that I even considered [dating] that woman. She doesn’t want me to touch her or even be near her. I am going crazy, I can’t do anything because it’s in the past.”
“She’s saying I don’t understand her. What is it exactly that I don’t understand? I am confused. I also don’t want the divorce. I have also said that if she’s jealous, she got even [angrier] and said it’s confirmed that I don’t understand her.”
“What am I actually missing? Does it really matter to some people about the class status their partner has? I have a psychiatrist appointment because I don’t know if I have mental health problems now.”
Wow, what an insane thing for his wife to pick a fight over. I’m inclined to think that his wife regrets marrying him and is trying to cause the end of their marriage by going crazy over his ex.
Also, not a good sign she’s bringing up a divorce over nothing and saying she’s going to find a better man than him. His wife is shallow and insane, so no, he doesn’t need a psychiatrist; he needs a lawyer to help him leave her.
What advice do you have for him?
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