Would you want to live in a house with your spouse’s freeloading twin adult children who can’t hold down a job or pick up after themselves?
For the last 12 years, this 37-year-old woman has been married to her 45-year-old husband, and she’s at the end of her rope over his unemployed, 25-year-old twin daughters.
Since her husband’s twins were 19, they have moved in with them, moved out, and moved back in, only to keep taking advantage of everyone. Her husband’s twins have repeated this cycle at least four or five times, and nothing ever changes.
“They don’t work, don’t contribute financially, and don’t help around the house unless they’re specifically told to and even then it’s half-done or completely ignored most of the time,” she explained.
“This time is no different. They quit their jobs LAST YEAR and haven’t even tried to find new ones since. They’ve completely taken over my home. There’s trash left out, dishes piling up, and a constant mess that never actually gets cleaned.”
“The house smells like a dirty dog and BO. Their personal hygiene is honestly a big part of it, too. It’s gotten to the point where the entire environment feels dirty and overwhelming.”
Her husband’s twins have a dog, and do you think they take care of their pet? No, they don’t. Their dog goes to the bathroom in the house, and the girls won’t pick up the mess.
She has four children with her husband, and she’s so frustrated that they’re forced to live in filth. Her husband is completely aware of how problematic his twins are.
He actually vents to her about how the girls need to get it together, but he doesn’t force them to make changes and instead resorts to cleaning up after them. The lack of consequences is why the twins don’t do things differently.
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“And yes, I’m the homemaker. I take pride in my home being clean. But I refuse to clean up after grown women. So at this point, I’ve stopped cleaning anything outside of my bedroom,” she said.
“I basically live in one room now. I only come out to cook and do my kids’ laundry, and if we want to spend time together, they have to come into my room. That’s how uncomfortable I am in the rest of my own house.”
“So I finally told him: If they don’t move out, [the kids and I] will. I didn’t say it to be dramatic. I said it because I genuinely cannot keep living like this, and I’m not going to keep raising our kids in this environment. Now he’s acting like I’m being extreme and putting him in an impossible position.”
She doesn’t see how she’s the irrational one for wanting the twins to get jobs and either pay rent or pitch in, but she’s still wondering if it was rude of her to force her husband to take action.
I think the ultimatum was warranted here. And she shouldn’t wait around for her husband to finally do something; she should start packing now, since I’m afraid nothing will get better.
It’s not fair to her or her children to live in squalor, and it’s high time that her husband grows a spine and puts his twins in their places.
What advice do you have for her?
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By Bre Avery Zacharski
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