We all have our breaking points when it comes to dealing with other people and their bad behavior, but how much would you be willing to put up with if your spouse had a teen daughter who was nothing but a terror?
Four years ago, this 35-year-old woman got married to her 45-year-old husband. They spent a year dating prior to tying the knot, and her husband has been married once before.
Her husband has a 15-year-old daughter from his first marriage who never came to think of her a stepmom. No, as soon as she came into the picture, her stepdaughter burned with hatred for her, and she thinks it has something to do with her mom not being her biggest fan.
“I have tried everything I could to make her feel welcome in our home. I love her like my own daughter. It hurts because she hates me, and I don’t know why,” she explained.
“I always make myself available for her to come to me when she needs me. I include her in every activity I do. I even offered to paint her room for her when her father told her that she’d have to wait.”
“I am doing everything I can to make her feel welcomed around me. I want her to feel like she’s my family. Her mother doesn’t like me at all, and that may be another factor in this.”
Her stepdaughter has anger issues, and she has tried to speak to her and her mom about getting her to a therapist to help with that, but it hasn’t happened.
Over the last couple of months, her stepdaughter’s behavior has spiraled out of control. She’s been stealing from her and breaking things in the house when her husband tells her no.
Her stepdaughter broke their TV, dishes, glasses, and even doors in their home due to kicking and slamming them. She’s punched holes in their walls.
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Her stepdaughter’s not just a terror at home, because now she’s getting into physical fights at school. She hits her teachers and the security people. She broke a girl’s arm and nose.
In less than two years, she and her husband have had to go to juvenile court three times over her stepdaughter, and she’s terrified of her.
Yesterday, she put her two-year-old son down for a nap, and she heard her husband arguing with her stepdaughter because she asked to sleep over at her boyfriend’s house, and her husband said no.
She went downstairs to see what all the commotion was about, and as her dog walked in front of her stepdaughter, her stepdaughter viciously kicked him.
She became enraged, especially considering how much she has put up with from this kid. She immediately called her stepdaughter’s mom and told her to come pick her up.
“I went upstairs to my stepdaughter’s room and grabbed her bags she brought over and put them downstairs beside the door. She yelled at me and threatened harm towards me,” she continued.
“I told her that she is no longer welcome here since she hurt our dog. I told her that until she learns to control her anger, she can’t be here. Her mother came and told me I was overreaching and called me a bunch of names. I told them both to leave.”
“Now my stepdaughter’s mom and aunt are spamming me with hateful messages saying I had no right to ban her from our home. I’m at a loss. I’ve been nothing but loving and patient with her. I gave her chance after chance and defended her on so many occasions. I can’t handle this anymore. This stress is getting to me.”
She desperately wishes she could get her stepdaughter some kind of help to turn her around and get her on the right path, but her stepdaughter’s mom is against it.
Her stepdaughter is a danger to her, her dog, and her son, so yes, preventing her from being in their home is the best course of action.
I’m surprised her own husband isn’t doing more here to protect them all or put a stop to her stepdaughter’s escalating anger. He’s her parent, too, and her stepdaughter’s mom can’t be the only one making choices about her.
I also find it wrong that her husband is letting her be the one to speak to his ex about this kid, and it sounds like he’s doing absolutely nothing. If he keeps on refusing to step in, it sounds like she might need a divorce.
Do you think she was wrong to ban her stepdaughter from her house?
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