If you made incredible money working a job that your spouse found humiliating, would you leave it behind and take a position that paid less just to make them happy? Or would you keep your job and tell them tough luck, you’re making too much?
This woman currently lives with her husband and his parents, and she loves her in-laws. Now, back when she married her husband and moved into his family’s place, they made an agreement to save up their money to purchase a home of their own one day.
She has a job working as a nanny, and she loves her career choice. She also makes six figures a year doing this.
“The issue is that my husband isn’t proud of my job. He told me I have until June to get a ‘real job.’ I recently got my green card, and he thinks I should apply for an admin position, even though I don’t have recent corporate experience,” she explained.
“I haven’t worked in admin in almost a decade. I don’t understand why I would leave a six-figure career that could help us buy a house just to take an entry-level admin job, especially when he works for his family business and earns around $50k a year.”
“On top of that, he insists we never move out of his hometown, a town we realistically can’t afford on our own. He wants to stay because he’s a volunteer firefighter and very dedicated to his firehouse.”
While she finds her husband’s dedication admirable, she’s failing to see why he’s going to try to make them stay somewhere so wildly expensive.
His position is a volunteer one, meaning it doesn’t exactly benefit their future long-term, let alone the children they’re going to have.
She’s beginning to feel like her husband doesn’t value her perspective, career, or ambitions, and is simply prioritizing his own goals.
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Her husband is foolish to think she should quit her job because he views it as what, less than? I bet what’s going on here is that her husband feels emasculated because she’s making so much money, and he’s not even making close to what she does.
If she does quit her job like he’s demanding she does, I don’t foresee them ever being able to move out of his mom and dad’s house at all. Ever. They’re going to be making significantly less money if she caves to him.
Since she values her career so much, I’m afraid she’s going to have to pick between that and her weak, insecure husband. The choice shouldn’t be a hard one to make at all: stay with the job, get rid of the man.
What advice do you have for her?
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