If your spouse said their parent had died, only for you to later learn that it was all a lie due to how ashamed they were, what would you do?
This 41-year-old woman has spent close to two decades married to her 43-year-old husband. He previously told her that his mom had passed away, but she just found out that he lied, and his mom is currently on her deathbed.
“His mother was underage when she had him, just 14, and was a victim of trafficking. His dad was one of the men who paid to…,” she explained.
“My husband made a great career for himself, we have a nice house, 2 children; more or less a perfect family. He confessed to me last week [that] she is actually alive because the guilt is eating him alive.”
“He said he only reconnected somehow with her in the past year. She lived homeless and or in shelters her whole life, victimized in one way or another, and he didn’t do anything for her because he was ashamed of where he came from.”
Her husband is tough as nails and never shows emotions. He’s pragmatic and the kind of man people don’t hesitate to show respect to.
So when her husband burst into tears and confessed to his lie, she was taken aback, since it was not like him to act like that at all.
He’s very high up in management at the company where he works, and he had to promptly cancel his numerous business trips in order to go see his dying mom.
“He has money and is good looking, so I was sure he is cheating on [me], so he told me the truth. She (his mom) has been in the hospital and doesn’t [have] very much time left,” she continued.
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“He kept rejecting her, although she was the one who saved him by risking her safety and maybe even more back then, and handed him over to the state. He said he was afraid people [would] look down on him if they found out about her.”
“He took me to meet her, but she can barely speak anymore. He held her hand and begged her to forgive him (I was out of the room but saw it through the door). She put her hand on his cheek. I don’t know what to do. I was lied to for 20 years.”
She’s not sure how to come to terms with the secret her husband kept from her, and she’s wondering if it’s more painful that he lied to her so easily, or that he was fine treating his mom, a victim, like trash for his entire life.
Well, I do feel like it’s pretty unforgivable that he allowed his mom to suffer when he could have helped her have a better life than what she was subjected to.
Who cares what people think? This woman tried to give him a higher quality of life by giving him up, and the least he could have done was do the same for her when he was able to.
This is just so sad to me, and if I were her, I would not be able to move past this. I don’t know how her husband was able to fall asleep at night knowing his mom was in such a bad position.
What advice do you have for her?
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