If you previously allowed your sibling to move in with you, only to have them steal things when they left, would you be down to let them move in for a second time?
This woman’s sister left her boyfriend, with whom she had been for six years, not too long ago. Her sister has spent the last several weeks living with her ex, and then her sister told her she actually left her horrific boyfriend for her jerk of an ex. Great.
She never liked any of those guys, and her sister’s most recent boyfriend was definitely not treating her right. She confronted her sister about it and alerted their family, but her sister accused her of being jealous of how happy she was with that man.
Well, she was right all along, and despite her asking her sister if she needed any help, she said her boyfriend was incredible. Anyway, after her sister went back to her ex, he then told her she has to find somewhere else to live, as he’s concerned his family will believe they’re back in a relationship.
So, her sister called her looking to see if she could move in, and she told her no way. You see, eight years ago, her sister left yet another abusive man and moved in with her.
“I never charged rent or asked her for anything. I just wanted to help her get back on her feet. This was after I spent roughky $5k to bail her out of jail after she got caught with his drugs,” she explained.
“I set several rules when she moved in, including no visitors, no drugs, no smoking, and stay out of the office and the bedrooms. She had her own room and run of the house otherwise. After a few months, she left and went back to him.”
“When she did, I cleaned her room. I found cigarette butts and liquor bottles everywhere, as well as several old prescription bottles for other members of the house. My child has asthma; smoking in the house could do real damage. She didn’t care.”
Also, when her sister moved out, she stole priceless belongings from her, such as family photos and her engagement ring that the father of her child gave to her.
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While she was no longer with her baby daddy and he had passed away, her plan was to gift the ring to her child when they grew up.
To this day, her sister promises she didn’t steal the ring, but somebody did, and if it wasn’t her sister, it was one of her trashbag friends who would come over while she was working.
Ever since telling her sister she can’t come back to live with her, her sister has rallied their whole family against her.
“Including her child, whom I have financially supported for years, as she has not been able to. She says that’s my responsibility as I make more money than her,” she continued.
“I have my own child that I solely support. She’s stating that I am responsible for helping her since I am her only option, and if I don’t, she will have no choice but to go back to jerk #1 and continue to be abused. The family asks how I could be so cruel as to let her stay in that situation.”
“I said I offered her help for years and was treated like [junk] for not being happy for her. The only time these people talk to me is to defend her. They tell me my life has been easy and I should want to help. My life hasn’t been easy, but they only know what she tells them.”
She told her family members that if they’re so worried about her sister, they should take her in. There was radio silence from them.
It’s not like her sister will be homeless; she does have additional housing options, but all of them will require her to pay rent.
She’s left wondering if she’s the jerk for not letting her sister move in with her. She’s just sick and tired of bailing her sister out, only to never have her learn her lessons.
Yeah, no, she’s not a jerk, but her sister sure is. Under no circumstances should she allow her to move in, because it’s not worth it at all.
What do you think?
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