Some people really don’t know how good they have it, or they just don’t appreciate it. What would you do if you provided your spouse with a luxurious lifestyle and they didn’t have to work, yet they were constantly unhappy?
This man is in that predicament at the moment. His wife does not work, nor does she have to. They have full-time help for their kid, so she doesn’t have to worry about that either.
They have a cleaning lady part-time, so staying on top of cleaning isn’t something his wife has to be concerned about since she has help.
“…We live a fairly lavish lifestyle of multiple vacations a year, eating out regularly, a nice car, live in a large place right on the water, [our] 4-year-old kid goes to a great private school, and [we] live in one of the most desirable places to live in the world,” he explained.
“She’s miserable, honestly, I don’t really know why. Says she doesn’t have time, or that I don’t do enough chores.”
And he’s unhappy because of her attitude, despite living in the lap of luxury. He’s additionally upset with their dead bedroom and the lack of affection his wife shows him.
She also insists on sleeping in the same bed as their child, who is too old for that. He works his heart out running quite an overwhelming company in order to make the amount of cash needed to keep up with how they live.
While he’s fine with his wife wanting to be unemployed, he does think that in exchange for that, she has to keep up with the household chores, which he says is one to two hours max per day.
“But instead she plugs away at her hobbies, and [the] house is a mess. I love her very much, but can’t seem to make her happy,” he continued.
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“She can do whatever she wants all day, and I have said if she wants to work, go for it. I support it, just contribute to the household if she does. Wouldn’t most women be grateful for this lifestyle?”
“I also buy her flowers, tell her how much I love and appreciate her daily. But it’s not working, and I’m thinking divorce is on the horizon.”
They have tried to go to counseling, but that did nothing for them. All his wife seems interested in is going out drinking with her friends, then coming home to fight with him.
He’s left wondering what he can do.
She might be depressed, or she might be unappreciative of everything he’s doing for her. It’s also a possibility that this is all rooted in her feeling purposeless.
Sitting at home all day doing nothing can’t be good for her. I think he should sit down and have a serious conversation with her about how they are going to end up divorced if she keeps up like this.
Maybe that will get her to change her ways, or he can ask her to see a therapist alone to work through whatever is going on with her.
But it would be sad for him to pull the trigger on a divorce without at least having a heart-to-heart with her first.
What advice do you have for him?
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By Bre Avery Zacharski
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