One time, TikToker Q (@qactress1) was dating an amazing guy. He had many great qualities, and they shared a lot of wonderful experiences together.
However, when it came to gift-giving, his behavior was a huge red flag.
A few months into dating, he asked her what she wanted for Christmas. She got excited because she loved exchanging gifts with people. She took some time to really think about what she wanted.
The next day, she told him that she needed a cashmere sweater. Since it was the holiday season, cashmere sweaters were on sale, so they weren’t too expensive.
“So, we had a whole conversation about it,” said Q. “We talked about the colors that would look good on me, the style, like V-neck or crew.”
But two weeks later, he asked her again what she wanted for Christmas. Confused, she told him that they had already had an entire conversation about it. He couldn’t remember a single detail that was discussed, so they talked about it all over again.
A week later, he told her to send over her Christmas wish list. Once more, she had to remind him of the one thing she wanted. The day before Christmas Eve, he was in a bad mood and had forgotten to buy her a gift.
She told him not to bother because it seemed like a real hassle for him anyway.
He insisted that he would go shopping on Christmas Eve for her. The next day, Christmas Eve, he was in a good mood and decided to take her out to dinner. After dinner, he said that the meal was so amazing, he decided it would be his Christmas present to her.
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“So, I told him this sounds like a bait and switch,” said Q. “Why did you even ask me what I wanted for Christmas if you weren’t planning on getting it for me?”
“And he said to me, ‘You have to learn that you can’t always get what you want.’ These men, they try to humble you and teach you lessons. That’s a true narcissist right there.”
She retorted that she always got what she wanted and didn’t need a man to teach her any lessons because she was not a child. Many TikTok users shared similar stories in the comments section.
“My mom did this. When I graduated from college, she said she wanted to give me a graduation gift and asked me if I could go on any domestic trip, where would I want to go? I said I wanted to go on a cruise to Alaska. Two months later, she and her sister went on a cruise to Alaska. When I asked her what happened to my gift, she said she didn’t know what I was talking about,” wrote one user.
“I had a boyfriend who kept asking me where my dream vacation would be, and we discussed Italy. He took our dream vacation with his brother and never made plans to go with me. I should have broken up with him right away,” commented another.
“I had this experience. It was with my ex-husband, and my response to him was a lot like your response. By the following Christmas, I was divorced,” added a third.
By Emily Chan
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