You know the part of the traditional marriage vows that goes, “in sickness and in health, for richer or for poorer?” It’s definitely a good idea to commit to those concepts before tying the knot with someone.
So, how would you feel if the person you were engaged to decided to force you to pay for the household bills right after you lost your job and had no money? Would you still feel like marrying them?
This 29-year-old woman has a fiancé the same age as her, but she’s currently questioning whether or not she should actually go through with marrying this man.
For the last several days, she’s been reconsidering her relationship and pondering if she should call off their engagement. What’s worrying her is how her fiancé looks at finances and money, which she finds tragically unfair.
She and her fiancé both had jobs that paid them amazingly. They used her money to purchase their first home (but her fiancé is not on the deed) and a luxury SUV prior to having their baby.
But now there’s trouble in paradise, as she was just laid off while still on her unpaid maternity leave.
“He makes enough to cover our bills on his own for this short period of time, but he still expects me to pay half of everything…when I have no income. I am obviously applying to as many jobs as I can, but I still deserve a maternity leave,” she explained.
“Right?! I asked him to send me money so that I could go run and get groceries, but he told me no and went [t]o get the groceries himself!”
“He will not give me money for literally anything other than a bill, and he watches me pay it on my phone. I grew up with my whole family being stay-at-home wives and mothers, and never once have I witnessed a man refusing to give their wife money.”
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Remember, it was her salary that gave them the ability to purchase a home as well as a brand-new car prior to her losing her job.
So it feels pretty cruel to her that her fiancé is still demanding that she help pay all of their bills while she is income-less and recovering from childbirth.
Being on maternity leave and getting laid off are two extremely stressful events, and shame on her fiancé for showing her no grace while also acting super controlling over money.
This is definitely not a man worth marrying, because he’s not ready to uphold the whole “for richer or for poorer” part of a marriage, and that’s alarming.
Sometimes things just happen in life that are outside of our control, and we need our spouse to step up and shoulder a bigger burden while we get back on our feet.
Since her fiancé has illustrated that he’s not willing to do that, why should she get married and tie herself down to a man who isn’t interested in being a partner?
What advice do you have for her?
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