Would you ever be willing to sacrifice your career for someone you met at work and fell in love with, or is that just asking for a problem?
This woman worked with her boyfriend for four months before they kicked off an office romance. In the beginning, her boyfriend took her out on a ton of dates, and they spent many weekends together.
“He would frequently offer me $20 here and there to spend at my own leisure, compliment me often, talk about our future, and how he wanted to give me the world. This man was extremely sweet to me all the time,” she explained.
“[My boyfriend and I] worked together for a while, and I knew that I had to leave the company since I saw myself marrying him.
Flash forward, dating for a year, privately.”
“I left the company, job offer rescinded, unemployed for a month, and now I’m in a new role. I feel like the support has gone out the window. We don’t go on dates, [and] he barely wants to do anything.”
She adores being active outside, and now her boyfriend is constantly objecting that he’s freezing when he joins her. He says many things to her lately that has her worrying he’s projecting his own feelings onto her.
And those aren’t the only things bothering her about her boyfriend. They used to chat about getting married quite frequently, and it seems he’s backing out.
He told her when she brought it up not so long ago that they will have to spend years saving up their money due to the house and wedding that she wants.
“I mentioned to him that I would be willing to have a smaller/ cheaper wedding because I don’t want to go broke over it.
He makes a lot of money. His bonuses are over $50,000+,” she added.
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“He invests his money like crazy and drops $30,000+ frequently into stocks for retirement. I had to make a sacrifice for the both of us by leaving the company and throwing away my amazing career that I was good at.”
“I was left without income for over a month and had to spend my savings/ credit card. Never once did I ask him for money, never once did he offer to help me. Does anyone have any advice for me as to how I should approach this? If I’m overreacting, please call me out.”
Yes, this did backfire on her big time, as she feared. It was really foolish of her to give up an incredible job for a man. I’m not sure why she did that; it sounds like she jumped ahead to aggressively planning a future with him at the expense of her own security.
And for some reason, it no longer comes across to me that he’s interested in being with her, so her job was a sad sacrifice to make.
What do you think?
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By Bre Avery Zacharski
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