If your spouse leaves you and you move on and find someone new, do you think it’s fair for them to then demand that you break up with your new flame so they can have you back?
It was six months ago that this man’s wife up and left him. He’s not going to lie here; he knows their marriage was on the rocks, so he doesn’t exactly fault his wife for being done with him.
He ended up losing his job, and that launched him into a terrible depression. He is aware he’s largely to blame for everything coming undone.
“So when she left me, I could barely muster up enough willpower to shave. By some minor miracle, I landed a job, and it has helped me improve my life. But I am still kinda depressed,” he explained.
“At my job, I met a woman, and we started hanging out. She is my escape from my life, and I like her. My wife knows about her; I never hid her.”
“My wife and I used to talk almost daily, mostly so that I could talk to kids. Initially, my GF and I were friends. As soon as we slept together, I told my wife. She didn’t say much.”
In the months since his wife abandoned him, their relationship has greatly improved. His wife has returned home to live with him, though they do not sleep in the same bedroom anymore.
They also don’t really hang out or spend any time together, so they’re essentially living like roommates and not like a husband and a wife.
What’s interesting is that his wife has recently brought up going to couples counseling. However, she is making him pick between her and his girlfriend, as she said he cannot keep seeing his girlfriend if they’re going to reconcile.
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“My wife also wants me to change jobs since my GF is my coworker. It seems impossible to me. Repairing our marriage and finding another job,” he continued.
“I am still not right, I still have depressive episodes, and I need this job to keep me centered.”
Anyway, he’s left wondering if he should pick his girlfriend or his wife.
In my opinion, their marriage ended as soon as his wife left him, so she doesn’t really get to change her mind here. He needs to divorce her, stop living with her, and move on with his life. Meaning, don’t ditch the girlfriend.
This is the path his wife put him on when she walked out the door. It’s far too late for couples counseling; his wife should have brought that up prior to planning her exit.
What do you think?
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