If you spent years making your spouse feel bad about themself, would you then be surprised if one day they decided to leave you over it?
This 29-year-old woman has spent the last five years married to her 34-year-old husband, and during the first three years of their marriage, everything was picture-perfect.
But then she got pregnant with their daughter, and that put them on unsteady ground. Her husband was her best friend, and they did absolutely everything together before she got pregnant.
Her first trimester was so bad that she was largely bedridden, so her husband started going out with his friends more than normal.
Even after she delivered their baby, her husband kept on going out with his buddies, and she grew to resent him for having the free time to do this and live his life how he wanted.
“The small misunderstandings gradually evolved into big fights with a lot of name-calling and cruel words. Admittedly, I am the one who would hit below the belt most of the time,” she explained.
“I happen to be earning twice what he earns, and I would constantly tell him he [is nothing] because he cannot even provide fully for the household without my support.”
“I told him repeatedly that he needs me more than I need him, and he would walk out of that door any moment, and our lives (me and the baby) would not change for [anything].”
Her husband would call her crazy, but he didn’t personally attack her and cut her down at the knees as she did with him. Throughout the last four months, she and her husband have been arguing nonstop, and sometimes their fights last every single day for a week in a row.
Her husband mainly sleeps somewhere else instead of at their house, but she’s not worried that he’s cheating. Her husband stays at the office until 3 a.m. to avoid having to be at home with her.
Earlier today, before he left for work, her husband stated that he’s done and wants a separation while they decide how to tell all of their loved ones that their marriage is over.
This launched a conversation that had both of them in tears, which blindsided her, as she has never seen her husband cry before.
“I truly do not want to separate from him. I love him so much. I just don’t want him to abandon me the way he has, and I cannot seem to communicate this to him without it ending in a fight,” she continued.
“Is there a way I can gradually win him back and convince him [that] separation is not the best idea and that we can work our way back slowly to what we were before the storm?”
Her poor husband! She is a total monster for taunting him and tearing him down, and he should have walked away from her a long time ago. She’s not being abandoned; her husband is just done putting up with her, as he should be.
I don’t believe that she loves her husband at all, because when you love someone, you don’t dare treat them like this on a regular basis.
She’s abusive, and she stomped all over her husband’s self-worth. Good for him for being done with her, because she wins the award for the cruelest wife I have ever heard of.
I hope she enjoys being alone, and that’s what she certainly deserves.
What advice do you have for her?
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