Finding out that your spouse is sending love letters to their ex is bad enough, but do you think it makes it worse when their ex is incarcerated, and they’re still saying they will always love them while spinning a different narrative to you?
This 26-year-old man has a wife the same age as him. They’ve been together for more than four years, and they tied the knot a year and a half ago.
Last Thursday, he found out that his wife had sent her ex in prison a letter two months ago. He promptly flipped out upon coming across this information.
It’s not just that his wife wasn’t being faithful; it really upset him to read the contents of the letter. But anyway, let’s rewind quickly to how he found the letter in the first place.
It all happened when he dropped his wife off at work, and she had left her phone in his car. Curiosity got the best of him, and he tried to type his name into her phone to see if she was talking about him.
His name starts with the letter J, and as he put that in, he saw that she had an app called JPay, which is meant to help incarcerated individuals stay connected with their loved ones on the outside.
He already knew this was an app to communicate with prisoners, and his wife had mentioned to him in the past that her ex is incarcerated.
He put two and two together and knew his wife had to be using the app to talk to her ex. He ended up dropping his wife’s phone off with her at work, and didn’t even know what to say.
He went home to do some investigation work of his own. He and his wife share a laptop, so it was not that hard for him to find out more.
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He looked through his wife’s emails and saw the JPay account information. He then reset his wife’s JPay password and was able to log in to the app. It was then that he saw the message his wife sent to her ex.
“She told him she was married to me. She also said that she thought about him all the time, proceeded to list their favorite songs (she jams out to these songs in front of me all the time),” he explained.
“[She] mentioned a hot air balloon and how she thinks of him every time she sees one because he told her when he gets out, he would take her on one. She says she always thinks about the ‘what ifs.’ I assume this is a what if she stayed with him.”
“Says she will always love him and always will hold a place in her heart. Then ends the message saying ‘I can’t have you send letters, but we can always text here’ through the JPay app.”
He feels repulsed and deceived. His wife has told him all along that she’s terrified of the day her ex gets released, because she’s worried he will try to hurt them both.
Thinking of all the amazing memories he’s made with his wife, they all are worth nothing to him, now that he knows she’s still holding out hope for her ex.
He can’t bear to look at his wife, and he’s left wondering what to do.
Well, he needs to gather up his self-respect and leave his wife, because she’s clearly not over her ex and still in love with the guy. If I were him, I wouldn’t want to wait around and see if she leaves as soon as this man gets released.
There’s no way you can come back from your spouse confessing their love for someone else, because you’re always going to be struggling with whether you’re good enough.
What advice do you have for him?
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