Having a friend at work really makes the daily grind that much more doable. But if your spouse had a work friend who was making you uncomfortable, would you call them out?
This woman’s husband has a married coworker who loves calling herself his work wife. She has seen a lot of the messages her husband and his work wife exchanged, and even though their relationship isn’t physical, it’s definitely crossing emotional boundaries.
For example, her husband’s work wife will text him photos of her feet and toes, her bed, and even herself in a nightgown. Ok, the nightgown photo was actually in a group chat, while the other things weren’t, not that that makes her feel better.
Her husband’s work wife has requested that he help her work on getting a bikini body, despite him not being a personal trainer or qualified to assist with this.
Her husband’s work wife acts like he’s her therapist or nurse, as she texts him about her blood work, medications, panic attacks, and other health problems.
Her husband’s work wife asks her husband to help her with things around her own home that her husband could do for her. This woman even got offended when her husband didn’t reply the way she anticipated.
“Eventually, my husband realized the friendship had become too personal and started setting boundaries. She became upset, said he was disrespecting her, and eventually quit after saying she felt hurt and unappreciated,” she added.
She decided to text this woman and let her know why she felt she had crossed boundaries and disrespected their marriage. She didn’t totally blame her, as she admitted her husband wasn’t perfect and had been a willing participant, but she clarified that it was inappropriate for her to be dependent upon another girl’s husband.
Her husband has admitted that he got carried away with the friendship, and he has promised to put some space between himself and his work wife.
She’s left wondering if she was wrong to confront her husband’s work wife.
I don’t believe that by inserting herself into the situation, it’s going to magically make her husband’s work wife more self-aware. Her husband’s work wife is a mess, but her husband did play into all of it, which is more alarming to me.
Telling this woman to back off isn’t enough; she should be worried about her husband and why he decided to even get this close to his coworker, because that spells trouble in their marriage.
Her husband should have shut his work wife down, but he didn’t, so that to me indicates that perhaps he has a thing for her, or he’s looking for attention elsewhere at the very least. None of those are good signs.
What do you think?
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