It’s just common sense not to compare your partner’s looks to your ex’s, but if you caught your partner doing that in front of all of their friends, what would you do?
This 26-year-old woman has spent nearly two years dating her 27-year-old boyfriend, and mainly, it’s been pretty wonderful. They hardly argue; they are looking at moving in together, and they seem to want the same things.
Last week, her boyfriend asked to use her laptop to print something out, as his phone was dead. As she was emailing the file he needed to herself, she saw a Discord notification come up from a group of her boyfriend’s friends, with over 30 people in it.
She wasn’t trying to go digging, but the message said she would never find out, so of course, she had to do some investigating. What she found was a chat with all of her boyfriend’s friends rating the girls they dated.
Her boyfriend gave her a score of 7 out of 10, which was hurtful to her, but not as much as what came after.
“He said I was ‘wife material because she’s loyal and easygoing, but if I could combine her personality with my ex’s body, she’d be perfect,'” she explained.
Her boyfriend’s friends responded with laughing emojis. She shut the laptop and chose to keep quiet. The following morning, she canceled the trip she had booked to celebrate her boyfriend’s birthday.
She actually lost money, because she had already paid for their hotel and other activities, but she couldn’t get a refund. She feels like she would rather be missing that cash than celebrating a man who puts her down behind her back.
“When he found out, he apologized over and over and said it was ‘just guy talk’ and that he only said it because everyone else was roasting their girlfriends,” she added.
“Now his friends are messaging me, saying I invaded his privacy and ruined his birthday over a joke. My friends think [that] if that’s how he talks about me when I’m not around, I should rethink the whole relationship.”
Her boyfriend is pleading with her to give him a second chance.
She’s left wondering if she was wrong to cancel the birthday trip after what she found in the group chat.
Her friends are right! Who knows what he says when she’s not present, and since he was so comfortable picking her apart to all of his guy friends, he probably doesn’t have many nice things to say about her anyway.
Why stay with a man who literally admitted he would drop her in a heartbeat if a girl with her personality and his ex’s body came along? I would rather be single than put up with that!
What do you think?
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