When a close friend or family member goes through a difficult divorce or breakup, it can be challenging to figure out how much or how little advice you should give them.
One woman recently upset her older sister after telling her ex that he should let her go instead of trying to maintain a toxic relationship for the sake of their kids.
She’s 20-years-old and has a 28-year-old sister named Vicky. Vicky was in a nine-year relationship with her partner Joe and had two young kids with him. They broke up a year ago after Vicky found out Joe had been cheating on her while she was eight months pregnant.
After the breakup, Vicky moved across the country to live with their parents, and Joe eventually followed her.
“Joe moved out to the same state and got his own place in an effort to try and keep the family together,” she explained.
“My parents were very supportive of them trying to work things out for the sake of the children. Things seemed to be going well; Vicky and the kids would go stay with Joe on his days off.”
Throughout this time, whenever Vicky asked her for relationship advice, she told her to be careful when it came to Joe because she didn’t trust him and lost respect for him due to his previous affair.
Now, she lives in the same area as Vicky, Joe, and her parents because she and her boyfriend recently moved after discovering they’re expecting their first child. Unfortunately, a week ago, she and her boyfriend saw Joe at a restaurant with another woman when they went out to dinner.
“I took photos and sent them to Vicky, telling her that I do not know what the context is, [but] it definitely looked like a date,” she recalled.
“When Vicky confronted Joe, he was honest and told her she was a girl he’d met and taken [an] interest in and that it was a date. Vicky was hurt and begged him to still continue trying to work things out with her, to which he agreed and supposedly cut off communication with the girl.”
Then, a few days after the incident, Joe called her and apologized that she had to witness what he had done.
He also asked her for advice on what he should do about his relationship with Vicky, and she started suspecting that the only reason he wanted to try and make it work with her was for their kids. She told him that if he wasn’t genuinely committed to having a relationship with Vicky, he needed to let her go and have a clean break.
She also told Joe that his and Vicky’s kids would only suffer watching their relationship go back and forth. So, that night, he called Vicky and told her they should break things off and just be co-parents together. Unfortunately, it didn’t go over very well.
“I’m sure he told Vicky about our conversation because she has been blowing up my phone telling me that I ruined her chance at happiness, that I destroyed her family, and that I should’ve kept my opinions to myself,” she said.
Her parents have gotten involved in the drama, and her mom messaged her to tell her she was a “home wrecker” and that she should’ve let Vicky and Joe figure things out themselves.
Should she not have given Joe her honest opinion, or was it for the best?
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